Episode 48 | Season 2, Episode 4 Beautifully Unfocused: How to Love Someone With ADHD

If you love someone with ADHD, there’s a good chance you’ve misunderstood them at least once.

And if you have ADHD, there’s a good chance you’ve spent a lot of your life feeling misunderstood before anyone ever asked what was actually happening inside you.

This episode is a field guide from the inside.

I’m talking about the shame of being the ADHD kid, the one who heard “could do better” so often it started to feel like a name. The kid who got called disruptive, lazy, careless, dramatic, too much, or not living up to their potential, when what they really needed was language, support, and someone willing to ask a better question.

We get into the “too many tabs open” feeling, executive dysfunction, rejection sensitivity, disappearing when overwhelmed, and why a delayed text or strange tone can hit like proof of every old fear.

We also talk about love.

Because ADHD is not only chaos. It is deep feeling, big ideas, late-night creativity, strange brilliance, missed signals, real regret, and a brain that can build whole worlds while still struggling with the simple thing in front of it.

This episode is also for spouses, partners, parents, friends, coworkers, and anyone trying to love someone whose brain does not move in straight lines. Sometimes when we share a song, lyric, image, or creative idea, we are not only showing you a project. We are showing you where the noise went. We are asking to be seen.

And we talk about women and ADHD too. Girls and women have been missed for too long. ADHD can look like anxiety, perfectionism, masking, people-pleasing, emotional overwhelm, exhaustion, and holding everything together until the whole system starts to crack.

This is not a medical lecture. This is not an excuse factory.

ADHD does not give us a free pass to hurt people, avoid repair, ignore responsibilities, or make everyone else manage the fallout.

But shame does not fix ADHD.

Understanding helps. Clarity helps. Systems help. Curiosity helps. Repair helps.

This episode ties into my album Beautifully Unfocused and closes with the song “ADHD Kid,” written for the younger version of us who spent too much time apologizing for a brain that was also building something beautiful.

We are beautifully unfocused.

We are learning.

We are building.

And somehow, through all of it, we are still here, still trying.

Episode 47 | Season 2, Episode 3 Build Your Life, But Don’t Lose Your Soul

Everybody loves the message: build your life, chase the dream, start the thing, stop waiting.

I do too.

But there’s a harder question underneath all that ambition:

What kind of person are you becoming while you build?

In this episode, I’m talking about ambition, power, men, women, leadership, and the ugly truth that some people chase success so hard they leave their character behind. We get into the difference between confidence and contempt, strength and control, leadership and ego, and why the people with power teach the rest of the room what behavior gets rewarded.

This conversation looks at the way powerful men often model contempt as strength, especially toward women, and why the people around them who laugh, excuse, translate, and protect that behavior become part of the problem too. But this is bigger than politics. It’s about every room where power gets used badly: workplaces, families, healthcare, leadership teams, comment sections, and communities.

And yes, we talk honestly about men.

Men who interrupt. Men who dismiss. Men who turn accountability into a personal attack. Men who confuse being loud with being strong.

But I’m not coming at this as some perfect man who has it all figured out. I don’t. I’ve moved too fast. I’ve missed things. I’ve talked when I should have listened longer. I’ve had moments where my intensity landed harder than I intended. I’m still learning, still catching myself, still trying to lead better and listen better.

That’s part of the point.

This episode is not about shame. It’s about responsibility.

We also talk about the men trying to do better. The men learning to listen. The men willing to be corrected. The men trying to raise sons who don’t mistake dominance for strength and daughters who don’t have to fight to be heard.

And we make room for the nuance too: toxic power is not only a male problem. Women can bully too. Women can tear other women down. Bad leadership, narcissism, insecurity, and cruelty show up in more than one form.

Build your life. Please do.

Start the project. Take the risk. Make the art. Apply for the job. Chase what keeps calling you.

But don’t build a life that makes people smaller when they get close.

Don’t build a life that leaves others carrying the emotional cost of your ambition.

Don’t build a life people have to recover from.

This episode closes with my song “Stop Making Amy Cry,” a reminder that the kindest people often carry the weight of a world that keeps asking too much from them.

We’re still here.

Still trying.

The Real Cost of Always Being Right

What if the thing you’re most certain about is quietly costing you the people you care about?

In this episode of Still Here, Still Trying, I get into something that’s been bothering me more and more. The way certainty has taken over how we think, how we talk, and how we show up with each other. It feels like strength in the moment. It feels like clarity. But underneath that, something else is happening that most of us aren’t paying attention to.

We’re reacting faster, listening less, and deciding who people are before we’ve actually taken the time to understand them. Over time, that starts to change our relationships, our leadership, and the way people experience us.

This isn’t about politics. It’s about what all of this is doing to you.

I walk through what this looks like in real life, why certainty feels so good even when it’s hurting us, how social media and algorithms are feeding it every single day, and what it actually takes to break out of it without losing your voice or your convictions.

This one gets honest. It gets a little uncomfortable. And it might hit closer to home than you expect.

I close the episode with my song Manufactured Panic from the album Shut Out the Noise, which captures what it feels like to live in a constant state of urgency and how to step out of it.

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling like you won the point but lost something else, this one’s for you.

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I almost quit paying attention to all of this.

Not life. Not my work. Not my family. Just the noise. The constant pressure to pick a side. The way conversations turn into fights before they even begin.

Something feels off right now.

And if you sit in it long enough, it starts changing you.

This episode kicks off Season 2 of Still Here, Still Trying. It’s not polished or balanced for the sake of it. It’s just honest.

We’re talking about what’s actually happening right now. The division. The outrage. The way both sides, in different ways, are feeding the same machine. And more importantly, what that’s doing to us as people. As leaders. As parents. As neighbors.

This season is anchored in one idea.

Human First.

Before the labels. Before the sides. Before the blame.

Because if we lose that, we lose more than arguments.

We lose each other.

At the end of this episode, I leave you with my song Human First.

That song matters to me right now more than when I first released it. It came from normal, everyday moments. Looking people in the eye. Small conversations. The kind of connection that still exists if you slow down long enough to notice it.

It’s a reminder that before the opinions, before the arguments, before whatever box someone gets put in, there’s a real person there.

That’s the anchor for this season.

If this hits something real for you, you’re not alone.

And this is just the start.

Next episode, we take this one step closer to home and talk about what all of this is doing to us personally, and the real cost of always needing to be right.

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Episode 44: What People Need Most Right Now

The world feels loud right now.

People are stressed, tired, overloaded, and trying to function while carrying more than they are saying out loud. In this episode of Still Here, Still Trying, Mike Baker talks about what people need most right now, and it is not another hot take, another lecture, or one more person yelling into the noise.

It is to be heard.

This episode digs into the quiet damage that happens when people stop feeling heard, why so many of us have learned to edit ourselves just to make the room more comfortable, and how real listening can become its own kind of shelter in a world that feels unstable. Mike talks about emotional overload, loneliness, burnout, dark humor, fear, and the pressure to keep functioning while everything feels a little too heavy. He also gets into the healing power of finally being able to tell the truth without being rushed, fixed, or talked over.

If you have been feeling numb, disconnected, exhausted, emotionally fried, or like you are carrying more than anybody around you fully sees, this one is for you.

Mike closes the episode with “Feel Something Again” from the new album Shut Out the Noise, a song about moving through the static, coming back to yourself, and letting real feeling back in. If this conversation hits something deep, stay for the song. It lands right where this episode lives.

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The Moment I Realized This Wasn’t Normal

I went to the Endo Summit thinking I’d learn more about endometriosis. What I didn’t expect was to walk out of there thinking about something way bigger.

This one stuck with me.

Not because of one moment. Not because of one story. It was the pattern. The same thing showing up over and over in different ways.

Women being told their pain is normal.

Being told to wait.

Being told some version of “you’ll be fine” while they’re sitting there knowing something isn’t right.

And after hearing it enough times, you start to realize… this isn’t a one-off problem.

This is happening everywhere.

And it doesn’t stop with endometriosis.

You see it with POTS.

You see it with EDS.

You see it with adenomyosis.

You see it with perimenopause and menopause.

Different labels, same experience.

Trying to explain what’s happening in your own body and not being taken seriously the first time you say it.

This one gets personal for me too.

I talk about my daughter, my wife, and what it’s like watching people you love try to navigate something that doesn’t always have clear answers.

And I share a message I got that hit harder than I expected. The kind that reminds you this stuff reaches way further than you think.

There’s no polished takeaway here.

Just something I can’t get out of my head:

It wasn’t normal.

If you’ve ever felt dismissed, or you love someone who has, this one’s for you.

And stick around at the end… I’m closing this one out with a track that hits this theme head on.

Still here.

Still trying.

What happens when you’re the one everyone depends on… but you don’t feel okay yourself?

In this episode of Still Here, Still Trying, Mike Baker gets honest about something millions of people are feeling right now but rarely say out loud. The pressure to stay strong. The weight of responsibility. The quiet exhaustion that comes from showing up every day while carrying more than anyone sees.

If you’ve been feeling tired, stretched thin, or just a little off but can’t explain why… this episode will hit home.

Mike shares real reflections from leadership, fatherhood, and creative life, exploring what it means to be the “strong one” in a world that doesn’t slow down. This conversation goes beyond surface-level motivation and digs into emotional burnout, mental load, and the gap between how we feel and how we present ourselves.

You’ll hear:

• Why high-performing people often feel the most exhausted

• The hidden cost of always being the reliable one

• How to carry pressure without losing yourself

• Why “getting through the day” is sometimes a real win

• A more honest way to think about strength, resilience, and mental health

This episode also explores the bigger picture… how stress, division, and constant noise in today’s world are affecting all of us more than we realize, even when we think we’re handling it.

If you’re trying to stay grounded, lead well, take care of your family, and still figure out your own life at the same time… this conversation is for you.

You’re not behind.

You’re not broken.

You’re carrying a lot… and you’re still showing up.

And that matters.

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Does Any of This Actually Matter Anymore?

That question shows up for a lot of people who are trying to build something meaningful. You’re putting energy into your work, your family, your ideas, your community. You show up every day and try to do things the right way. And somewhere along the line a quiet thought crosses your mind. Is any of this effort actually reaching anyone?

In Episode 41 of Still Here, Still Trying, Mike Baker sits with that question. Not from a place of defeat, but from the honest middle ground where most real life happens. The middle where the work is steady, the world is loud, and the results are not always obvious yet.

Mike talks about the strange tension between wanting your work to matter and living in a time where attention is scattered everywhere. He reflects on leadership, creativity, raising kids who are now grown, and the quiet moments where you start wondering whether the things you are building are landing anywhere.

The conversation leads into the story behind the song “A Song Nobody Hears,” written during a late night drive when Mike was wrestling with the exact question this episode explores. The song became the centerpiece of a five-song EP written in one burst of reflection about invisibility, effort, and why people keep creating even when the world seems distracted.

This episode is for anyone who has ever wondered if their work matters, if their voice is reaching anyone, or if the effort they are putting into their life is making a difference.

Sometimes the most meaningful work feels invisible while you are doing it. But that does not mean it isn’t shaping the world around you.

Listen in for a thoughtful conversation about quiet impact, creative doubt, leadership, and why the work that matters most rarely announces itself in real time.

At the end of the episode, Mike shares “A Song Nobody Hears,” a raw reflection on creativity, fatherhood, identity, and the hope that honest work eventually reaches someone who needs it.

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Still trying.