Are you quietly keeping score in your relationships?

“They never call me back.”

“I’m always the one reaching out.”

“I sent them business… where’s mine?”

It’s hard not to notice those moments. But when we hold onto them, they start to build. And over time, they can quietly tarnish really good relationships.

In this episode of Life at Ten Tenths, Garrett and Matt unpack why this mindset — even when subtle — can slowly erode your friendships, partnerships, and referral-based business.

What started as a conversation between Matt and his six-year-old daughter about playground dynamics turned into a powerful reminder about how we show up as adults.

Inside this episode, we explore:

• The difference between conditional and unconditional relationships
• The danger of “always” and “never” thinking
• Why agents often misread silence from clients
• How resentment quietly creeps into referral networks
• The shift from trying to get… to choosing to give

If you’ve ever felt frustrated that someone wasn’t matching your effort…

This conversation will hit home.

Because the agents who build rock-solid databases and referral businesses aren’t watching the scoreboard.

They’re giving. They’re present. They’re playing the long game.

And when you make that shift?

It changes everything.