Episodes

  • S4E2: Coming out as an Adult

    S4E2: Coming out as an Adult
    Feb 6 2026
    In this episode, my spouse shares whether she has regrets not coming out sooner and touches on the topic of what might have been missed since she came out as an adult. Due to current events in the US: Rainbow RailroadTransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe HavensTransgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender PeopleAdvocates for Transgender Equality ally guideHuman Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: Great ScottsYouTube Channel: JammidodgerTikTok: TransitionTogetherThe Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsChicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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    18 mins
  • S4E1: Annual Disclosure Day Reflection

    S4E1: Annual Disclosure Day Reflection
    Jan 12 2026
    The new season begins with a reflection on the fourth year post-disclosure and how things looked then versus now. Mentioned in or related to this episode: PFLAG and International PFLAG: Support, Education, and Advocacy for LGBTQ+ People and their Loved Ones Due to current events in the US: Rainbow RailroadTransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe HavensTransgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender PeopleAdvocates for Transgender Equality ally guideHuman Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: Great ScottsYouTube Channel: JammidodgerTikTok: TransitionTogetherThe Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsChicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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    8 mins
  • S3E18: Season Finale with Encore Interview

    S3E18: Season Finale with Encore Interview
    Nov 30 2025
    The season ends with a message of hope and an encore interview with special guest, Abbe Kruger. Abbe is a life coach who dedicates herself to supporting cisgender and straight spouses or partners, and couples, managing changes in sexuality, gender identity and gender expression. Abbe can help you anywhere in the world, you can contact her here. The podcast returns in January. Thank you for listening and here's to hoping for a wonderful year ahead. Mentioned in or related to this episode: Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx Them: How to Prepare for your First Visit Home after TransitioningTransVitae: Helping Your Family Accept a Transgender PartnerPronoun Pins: Human Rights Campaign pronoun pins , PFLAG pronoun buttons, Dissent pins, Etsy pronoun pins Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender PeopleAdvocates for Transgender Equality ally guideHuman Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: Great ScottsYouTube Channel: JammidodgerTikTok: TransitionTogetherThe Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsChicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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    23 mins
  • S3E17: The Decision to Tell or Not to Tell

    S3E17: The Decision to Tell or Not to Tell
    Nov 16 2025

    It is an ongoing calculation to decide when to tell someone new that your spouse is transgender. Everyone in your circle may know, but one still has to decide if it is necessary, if you think your spouse will be okay with it if they're not there, and whether it is even up to your spouse when you feel like it is the right moment to share that piece of information with someone new.

    In this episode, my spouse and I discuss a recent situation where we were caught off guard and another where I made the decision to tell someone that she happens to be transgender.

    Information for allies:

    • PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)
    • GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
    • Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide
    • Human Rights Campaign ally guide

    Places to look for therapy and professional support:

    • Psychology Today
    • Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx

    More transgender families:

    • YouTube Channel: Great Scotts
    • YouTube Channel: Jammidodger
    • TikTok: TransitionTogether
    • The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
    • Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman

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    Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions.

    If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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    16 mins
  • S3E16: Middle Schooler's Take on Moving Abroad

    S3E16: Middle Schooler's Take on Moving Abroad
    Nov 2 2025
    I asked my 12-year-old to share his perspective on moving abroad and squeezed out just enough to create a short episode. It is a reminder that kids are resilient and can handle big things as long as there is a support network to lean on — in this case, he has his parents plus family and friends from afar. There are lots of books, podcasts, resources and groups online to help you and your kids with an overseas move and even more specific to your situation and where you are going -- if you are planning a move, I encourage finding those groups and resources to help make the process feel less daunting. Mentioned or related to this episode: First interview with my son: Perspective from a 10-year-oldSecond interview with my son: A Child's Perspective on FFS Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender PeopleAdvocates for Trans Equality ally guideHuman Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: Great ScottsYouTube Channel: JammidodgerTikTok: TransitionTogetherThe Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsChicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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    7 mins
  • S3E15: Spouse's Take on Moving Abroad

    S3E15: Spouse's Take on Moving Abroad
    Oct 19 2025
    In this episode, my spouse shares her feelings about moving abroad. "We are not chess pieces," she says, regarding the current anti-transgender climate in the US. That says it all. Mentioned or related to this episode: USA Today: Safest States for Gay and Trans PeopleRainbow RailroadTransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe HavensErin in the Morning: Countries Should Accept Transgender Refugees from the U.S. Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender PeopleAdvocates for Trans Equality ally guideHuman Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: Great ScottsYouTube Channel: JammidodgerTikTok: TransitionTogetherThe Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsChicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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    13 mins
  • S3E14: The View from Abroad

    S3E14: The View from Abroad
    Oct 5 2025
    You know how we sometimes dissect our night out on the way home from an event — you think about things you said, what others said, what you would do differently. That's what it feels like I've been doing after living abroad for two months — looking back and wondering if things are as bad as I thought they were, and if we made the right move. This can't be covered in one episode but let's explore how things are currently looking from here. Mentioned or related to this episode: ACLU: Mapping Attacks on LGBTQ Rights in U.S. State Legislatures in 2025NBC News: Texas to Become 20th State with Transgender Bathroom LawLambda Legal: Identiy Document Guidance for Transgender, Nonbinary, Gender-Noncomforming, and Intersex People TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe HavensErin in the Morning: Countries Should Accept Transgender Refugees from the U.S. Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender PeopleAdvocates for Transgender Equality ally guideHuman Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: Great ScottsYouTube Channel: JammidodgerTikTok: TransitionTogetherThe Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsChicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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    10 mins
  • S3E13: The Move and the Motive

    S3E13: The Move and the Motive
    Sep 21 2025
    In the U.S., the current administration has fueled a hate-filled climate toward transgender people that is false, dangerous, and manipulative. It is a loss for the U.S. when smart, kind, caring people who have the burden of carrying the stigma that the transgender label brings — leave the U.S. In this episode, I share why our family of three, plus one dog, packed up decades of life into nine suitcases and a few carry-ons and left the United States. Mentioned or related to this episode: NPR: A Pioneering Gender-Affirming Health Institute Opened in 1919Netflix Documentary: ELDORADO -- Everything the Nazis HateVisit Berlin: Magnus Hirschfeld -- Soul of the Queer CommunityQueerAF: Learning about the first trans clinicIndependent: Trump has Declared War on the Transgender Community, Leaving Americans to Seek Asylum -- from America Lambda Legal: Identiy Document Guidance for Transgender, Nonbinary, Gender-Noncomforming, and Intersex People TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe HavensErin in the Morning: Countries Should Accept Transgender Refugees from the U.S. Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF)GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender PeopleAdvocates for Transgender Equality ally guideHuman Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology TodayCoaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx More transgender families: YouTube Channel: Great ScottsYouTube Channel: JammidodgerTikTok: TransitionTogetherThe Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic TransformationsChicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman * * * Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.
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    8 mins