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In this essential seventh episode of our Sexual Purity series, we address the unique challenges and questions faced by singles—whether you're young, never married, divorced, or widowed. In a culture that saturates singleness with sexual temptation, how do we live righteously? Drawing from 1 Corinthians 15:33 and other key scriptures, we offer biblical wisdom and practical guidelines for navigating this season with integrity.

We begin by acknowledging the unprecedented pressures on singles today: leisure time, money, social media, transportation, and a media culture that portrays premarital sex as normal—all compounded by the gap between puberty and marriage. The result is overwhelming temptation. But God has not left us without direction.

So we tackle the question every single wrestles with: How far is too far? The answer is rooted in understanding God's design. Sexual drives are real, and when stimulated, they naturally move toward climax. Foreplay is designed by God to culminate in intercourse—so if intercourse is forbidden outside marriage, so is foreplay. The line must be drawn before either person becomes sexually stimulated. Fondling and any activity that results in arousal is off-limits. Once your body crosses that line, your convictions won't stop it. If you want a different outcome, you must make different choices—and draw the line far enough back that neither of you crosses it.

We also explore the power of choosing friends wisely. Bad company corrupts good character (1 Corinthians 15:33). We become like the people we spend time with, so surrounding ourselves with godly influences is not optional—it's essential for survival.

For those considering dating, we offer this perspective: dating is an option, not a necessity. Much temptation comes from the social custom of coupling and isolating young people. If you choose to date, we provide clear, biblical guidelines:

• Date only believers (2 Corinthians 6:14)
• Remember Christ is with you all evening
• Treat your date as a brother or sister in Christ, not a lover (1 Timothy 5:1–2)
• Go out in groups, not alone
• Focus on conversation, not contact
• Avoid fast-moving relationships and instant intimacy
• Plan the entire time in advance—no gaps
• Never be alone in compromising settings: couches, cars, late nights, bedrooms
• Stay accountable to someone
• Remember God is always watching (Jeremiah 16:17)
• Write out your standards and enforce them yourself
• Don't do anything with your date you wouldn't want someone doing with your future spouse
• Beware of the "moral wear down" in long dating relationships and engagements (1 Corinthians 7:8–9)

This episode is not about legalism—it's about love for God and wisdom for the journey. Purity is possible, but it requires intentionality, boundaries, and a dependence on Christ that reshapes every decision.

If you're single and wondering how to honor God in your relationships, this episode offers clarity, hope, and a roadmap for walking in purity until marriage—or in contentment and holiness as a single person.

Key Scriptures: 1 Corinthians 15:33; Colossians 2:20–23; 2 Timothy 2:3–6; Galatians 5:22–23; 2 Corinthians 6:14; 1 Timothy 5:1–2; Jeremiah 16:17; 1 Corinthians 7:8–9

Join us for this practical, grace-filled episode as we learn to navigate singleness with wisdom, honor God with our bodies, and discover that purity is not about deprivation—it's about pursuing the best that God has for us.

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In this confrontational and necessary episode of our Sexual Purity series, we tackle the uncomfortable question Jesus Himself raised: How radical are you willing to get? Drawing from Matthew 5:27–30, we examine what it truly means to take drastic action when our eyes, minds, and hearts are under assault.

We begin with a shocking illustration: if I invited you to peek through a neighbor's window or hide in the bushes at a make-out spot, you'd call me a pervert. But if I invited you to watch Titanic—which contains those very scenes—suddenly it's "great entertainment." This exposes a dangerous double standard. We have become entertained by sin, normalizing what God calls abomination, and in doing so, we train ourselves and our children to lust.

Satan's strategy is simple: make sin normal. But Scripture calls us to something far different. Proverbs 8:13 says, "To fear the Lord is to hate evil." Yet how can we hate evil when we are being entertained by it? Ephesians 5:3–5 warns that impurity must not even be named among us. This episode forces us to hold our entertainment choices up to the light of God's Word.

Then we turn to Jesus, the Radical. His words about gouging out eyes and cutting off hands are shocking by design—He wants us to take sexual temptation with life-or-death seriousness. The eye and hand are not the causes of sin, but they are the means of access. If we are going to follow Jesus, we must govern ruthlessly what we see and do.

This leads to practical, radical action. If certain people, places, or contexts make sin more likely—stay away. If cable TV is a snare—get rid of it. If the internet is a battlefield—install filters, move the computer to public spaces, or disconnect entirely. These aren't legalistic rules; they're lifelines. As Romans 13:14 commands, "Make no provision for the flesh."

We address the objections: "That's too radical!" No—Jesus is radical. Followers of Christ have endured torture and death for Him. Can we not sacrifice television and internet for the sake of our souls? Purity comes only to those who want it badly enough to do whatever it takes.

Finally, we offer practical tools: internet filters, accountability partners, resources like https://www.pluggedin.com for entertainment discernment, and even TV fasts to reclaim time for what truly matters. This episode is a call to stop making excuses and start making different choices—because if you want a different outcome, you must make different choices.

The battle for purity demands more than good intentions. It demands radical obedience. And the reward is not just freedom from sin, but the joy and peace that can only be found in wholehearted devotion to Christ.

Key Scriptures: Matthew 5:27–30; Ephesians 5:3–5; Proverbs 8:13; Romans 13:14

Join us for this uncompromising episode as we answer the question: How desperate are you for victory? How radical will you go for Jesus? The path to purity is narrow—but it leads to life.

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In this practical and hope-filled fifth episode of our Sexual Purity series, we move from understanding the battle to equipping you with wise strategies to win it. Using the memorable “Parable of the Doughnut,” we illustrate a critical truth: sincere intentions and prayer alone are not enough—we must have clear, deliberate strategies and diligently carry them out.

We open by imagining a man who vows to quit doughnuts—praying, seeking accountability, and meaning business—yet continues to surround himself with doughnut culture. The result? Predictable failure. So it is with sexual temptation. Victory requires more than desire; it demands actionable wisdom.

Our first and most basic strategy comes straight from Scripture: Flee! (1 Corinthians 6:18). When it comes to sexual immorality, it pays to be a coward. Like Joseph in Genesis 39, we must not only refuse to sin but refuse to be near what tempts us. We explore why it’s always easier to avoid temptation than to resist it, and why keeping your distance isn’t legalism—it’s lifesaving obedience.

But fleeing is only the beginning. We must also cultivate our inner life. Self-reformation and “trying harder” will never break lust’s grip. Lasting change flows from time with God—on our knees, in His Word, and in accountable community. As we set our minds on Christ (Colossians 3:1–5), He empowers us to put to death the works of the flesh.

Prayer is our lifeline—not just after we fall, but before the battle begins. Jesus calls us to “always pray and not give up” (Luke 18:1). Many feel defeated, believing victory is impossible, but God would never command what He does not empower. This episode confronts the lie that we must wait for heaven to live in purity, declaring that we are called to be overcomers now (1 John 5:4).

Through personal testimony, we share how victory is built one day at a time—in 24-hour increments of dependence on God’s grace. You can turn away, shut your eyes, walk out, and click away. Because of Christ, you are not powerless.

If you’re tired of good intentions that lead to failure, this episode offers a roadmap: flee, cultivate, pray, and persevere. Redemption is real. Grace is enough. And victory is not a distant dream—it’s a present possibility for those who live in the power of the risen Christ.

Key Scriptures: 1 Corinthians 6:18; Genesis 39:10–12; 2 Timothy 2:22; Colossians 3:1–5; Luke 18:1; 1 John 5:4

Join us as we move from struggle to strategy, and from defeat to daily victory.

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