Somewhere along the way, strength stopped being a choice and started being requirement. In this 45-minute episode of Talk and Toast, we tell truth about softness- especially for Black women who learned early how to brace, how to survive, and how to stay ready in spaces that were never built for their care.

This conversation explores how strength became muscle memory, why softness started to feel risky, and what it costs us when resilience never gets to rest. We name the fatigue that often goes unseen and reframe softness not as weakness, but wisdom.

This episode is for anyone who's been praised for being strong while quietly longing for relief.

Pull up a chair

Lower the armor

And stay for the toast

Talk and Toast is powered by Provoke Change, where we name the problem- and toast to the solution.

In this raw and unfiltered episode of Talk and Toast, Coach G dives into the sacred tension of loving someone deeply—while still figuring out who you are. What happens when your heart is all in, but your identity is still under construction? From personal stories to expert insights, this episode breaks down the psychology, the emotional labor, and the soul work behind showing up in love without losing yourself.

Expect truth. Expect fire. Expect the kind of reflection that shakes your spirit and stirs real conversation at your table. And for the first time ever, Coach G drops an original song—“Loving Someone While Learning Yourself”—right in the middle of the episode, creating a moment that hits all the way home.

Whether you're in love, recovering from it, or learning to love yourself again—this episode is your mirror.

In this raw, unfiltered installment of Talk and Toast, Coach G pulls no punches. Dive into the psychology of why we stop showing up for ourselves—how trauma, survival modes and self‑sabotage mask as “taking a break.” Discover how life experiences shape our decisions, why we keep ghosting our own growth, and how to finally come back home to you. Get ready to feel seen, speak your truth, and toast to real healing.

Tune in, grab your glass, and let’s walk through the fire together.