Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 20: BLEEDING ON THOSE YOU LOVE Mlungisi opens up about growing up in a fractured home, wrestling with unforgiveness toward his father, navigating anger inside his marriage, and discovering that healing is not automatic just because you love God. Together, we unpack the quiet ways pain travels through generations and how unhealed parts of a man can slowly become collateral damage for the people he loves most. This conversation is not built on perfection or polished answers. It is two husbands speaking honestly about what it looks like to fight for healing while trying to lead families well. We speak about masculinity, vulnerability, accountability, therapy, community, fatherlessness, marriage, leadership, and the weight many black men carry in silence. We wrestle with the tension between grace and accountability, the pressure men feel to perform and provide, and the growing disillusionment young people have toward marriage and family. More than anything, this episode is an invitation for men to stop pretending they are okay and to finally confront the pain they have hidden for years. There is something deeply sacred about hearing another man say, “I was angry. I was broken. I needed help. And God met me there.” This episode reminded me that healing is not about becoming flawless. It is about becoming honest enough to surrender. It is about surrendering to God, trusted community, and even your wife to speak into the parts of you that you would rather keep hidden. For the husband who feels overwhelmed, emotionally distant, tired, or quietly falling apart, this conversation is a reminder that there is still hope for you. You are not beyond healing, you are not beyond restoration, and you do not have to walk this journey alone. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/

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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 19: NOT ALL MARRIAGES ARE BUILT THE SAME This episode is about staying, choosing joy when life is heavy, when grief sits in the room with you, when money is tight, when dreams feel delayed, and when love demands more than feelings. King D Music opens up about dating his wife for six years before marriage, losing his father during one of the most defining seasons of his life, struggling through uncertainty, and learning that joy is not the same thing as happiness. It is a posture, a commitment and a decision to remain present even when life hurts. We wrestle with the realities many husbands are too afraid to say out loud. What does it mean to lead when you feel broken yourself? How do you pursue your calling without neglecting your family? Why do so many men speak about marriage like it is a prison instead of a gift? This conversation moves through grief, masculinity, purpose, temptation, faith, fatherhood, accountability, and the quiet ways God shapes men through love and community. There are no polished answers here. Just two husbands speaking honestly about what it costs to build a life, protect a marriage, and become the kind of men their families can trust. More than anything, this episode is for the man who feels tired. The man wondering if he should give up on the dream, on the marriage, on himself. It is for the husband trying to carry responsibility while still healing from his own wounds. It is for the black boy who grew up without examples and the black man trying to become one. This conversation reminded us that real strength is not found in pretending everything is okay. It is found in surrender, in honesty, in staying soft enough to love deeply, and in trusting God enough to keep going. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #HusbandPodcast #marriageconversations #BlackLove #christianmarriage #marriagematters #JoyInMarriage #faithandmarriage #BlackMenHeal #healthymarriage #KingDMusic #marriagejourney #purposedrivenlife #menwholead #marriagepodcast #christianmen #fatherhoodmatters #loveandcommitment #MarriageTruths #gospelculture #RelationshipWisdom #kingdommarriage #southafricanpodcasts #thejoyofthelord

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 18: A WEDDING & A FUNERAL Marriage often begins with dreams, excitement, and hope, but what happens when joy and grief collide at the exact same moment? From navigating the loneliness of singleness and unrealistic expectations of love, to stepping into marriage while mourning the devastating loss of a father, this episode explores the hidden tensions many husbands silently carry but rarely speak about. Together, we unpack the weight of trying to “show up” as a husband while internally falling apart, the pressure men place on themselves to become ideal husbands, and the painful beauty of learning to surrender. Through stories of grief, therapy, fatherhood, legacy, emotional vulnerability, and being loved through brokenness, this conversation reveals that marriage is not simply about having someone beside you, but about allowing yourself to truly be seen. It’s a powerful reflection on masculinity, emotional honesty, and how God’s grace often meets us in our weakest, most undone moments. This episode is for every husband trying to figure it out as he goes, every man grieving silently while still trying to lead, and every couple learning how to hold each other through both celebration and sorrow. It’s raw, reflective, funny, deeply human, and filled with moments that will challenge the way you think about marriage, partnership, grief, and healing. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling unseen, emotionally overwhelmed, or afraid of letting your spouse into your pain, this conversation will remind you that sometimes strength looks less like holding it together, and more like allowing yourself to be carried. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #husbandlife #biblicalmarriage #christianmen #faithandmarriage #marriagematters #menoffaith #kingdommen #marriagegrowth #LeadershipInMarriage #godlyman #christianpodcast #mensmentalhealth #emotionalintelligence #marriageadvice #faithjourney #purposedrivenlife #marriagegoals #healthymarriage #VulnerabilityInMen #spiritualgrowth #mensdevelopment #familyleadership #marriageconversations #christianliving #faithbasedcontent #menwholead #GrowthMindsetMen #marriagepodcast #becomingbetter

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[S3] EPISODE 17: THE LIE OF THINKING THINGS ARE NOT THAT BAD

What happens when the pressure to provide, to lead, and to “have it all together” quietly exposes the cracks beneath the surface? In this episode, you step into a deeply honest conversation about the hidden battles men carry, the fear of failure, the weight of expectation, and the quiet ways past wounds shape how we show up in marriage. From unresolved disappointment to the instinct to fix instead of feel, this story invites you to confront the subtle habits and mindsets that can slowly distance you from your wife, your purpose, and even yourself.

But transformation doesn’t come through pretending or performing, it comes through surrender. As the conversation unfolds, you’ll hear what it looks like for a man to unlearn control, embrace vulnerability, and allow both God and community to reshape his identity. From redefining leadership in marriage to understanding the power of emotional awareness, this episode challenges the idea that strength is found in having answers, and instead reframes it as the courage to be honest, to grow, and to be led.

Somewhere in that journey, habits begin to shift, environments change, and even relationships are refined. You start to see that becoming a better husband isn’t about perfection, it’s about intentional transformation, one decision at a time. This episode invites you to reflect on the man you’re becoming, the influences you’re allowing, and the patterns you’re holding onto, because the life you build in private will eventually shape the marriage you live in public.

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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 16: FROM A MESSY START TO A STRONG MARRIAGE Becoming who you're meant to be before life demands it of you, before the responsibility, before the title, before the moment arrives? Or do you only discover who you are when everything is already on the line? In this episode, you step into a story that doesn’t begin at marriage, but in the unseen spaces where habits are formed, convictions are tested, and decisions quietly shape the man you are becoming. You’ll recognise the tension, the gap between who you say you are and how you’re actually living, and the subtle ways you convince yourself there’s still time to figure it out later. But life has a way of interrupting that illusion. Responsibility arrives, ready or not, and suddenly everything becomes real. You’re forced to confront what’s been forming beneath the surface all along, your character, your faith, your integrity, your willingness to lead when it costs you something. This is where the story shifts, not into perfection, but into honesty, where you begin to understand that manhood isn’t something you arrive at, it’s something shaped through pressure, through failure, through choosing to take responsibility when walking away would be easier. And somewhere in that process, you begin to see that even in the chaos, even in the consequences, there is grace meeting you there. Not after you’ve fixed everything, but right in the middle of it. The valley becomes the place where you are refined, where your priorities are reordered, and where you learn what it actually means to be a man who stays. This episode invites you to reflect on your own life, the habits you’re forming, the truths you’re avoiding, and the responsibilities you’re postponing, because when the moment finally comes, it won’t ask you to become someone new, it will reveal who you’ve been becoming all along. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #thathusbandpodcast #husbandlife #christianmen #faithandmarriage #biblicalmanhood #masculinityredefined #fatherhoodjourney #marriagematters #RealTalkMen #kingdommen #menoffaith #spiritualgrowth #personalresponsibility #LeadYourHome #intentionalliving #faithoverfeelings #graceandgrowth #becomingbetter #FailingForward #purposedrivenlife #godlyleadership #marriagejourney #YoungHusbands #modernmanhood #LifeLessons #Discipleship #AuthenticMen #HopeInTheValley #GrowthMindset #LegacyBuilding

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 15: THE KIND OF FOCUS THAT MAKES YOU A MAN Can a man become who he’s meant to be before life demands it of him? Before the responsibility, before the title, before the moment arrives? In this episode, we sit with a story that begins long before marriage, long before love, and long before the world sees the outcome.

From saving for a wife he hadn’t met yet, to being shaped by a present and intentional father, this conversation with Caesar unfolds as a reflection on what it means to prepare for a life you cannot yet see. It’s about discipline before desire, formation before opportunity, and the quiet decisions that eventually shape a man’s legacy.  What emerges is not just a love story, but a story of foundation. The kind that is built in ordinary moments. In conversations with parents. In choosing responsibility early. In learning that manhood is not something you arrive at, but something you grow into over time. And when love finally enters the picture, it doesn’t start from nothing, it meets a life that has already been preparing for it. This episode moves through the beauty of meeting his wife, the intentionality behind their connection, and the honesty that defined their beginning. There is no performance here. Just two people choosing to show up fully, choosing truth over impression, and building something rooted in faith, culture, and clarity about who they are. But beneath it all is a deeper conversation about pressure, legacy, and identity. What it means to carry the example of a father. What it means to become that example. And how marriage introduces a new kind of responsibility that reshapes everything, from how you think, to how you lead, to how you love. This is a reminder that the life you desire is often built long before it arrives. That preparation is not wasted, even when it feels unseen. And that when the moment finally comes, love does not ask you to become someone new, it reveals who you have been becoming all along. This episode is an invitation to reflect on your own foundations. The habits you’re building. The voice you’re listening to. The life you’re quietly preparing for. And whether you are becoming the person that future requires. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/ #ThatHusbandPodcast #ForHusbands #ModernHusbands #HusbandsWhoLead #MarriagePodcast #MarriageConversations #MarriageMatters #MarriageUnderPressure #LoveInRealLife #IntentionalMarriage #StayingConnected #FightForYourMarriage #LoveAndCommitment #RelationshipWisdom #RealTalkForMen #EmotionalGrowth #HealthyMasculinity #MenWhoLead #ManhoodJourney #BecomingBetter #LegacyMindset #FaithAndMarriage #ChristianMarriage #CovenantLove #PreparedForMarriage #BuiltBeforeLove #MarriagePreparation #FoundationFirst #BlackLove

Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 14: WHAT HAPPENED TO DATE NIGHTS? Can a marriage hold when everything changes at once? When life accelerates, pressure builds, and the rhythms that once sustained you begin to slip? In this episode, we step into a deeply personal season as Blaque Nubon and his wife Lilly Million open up about the reality of their marriage right now where they quietly realise how easy it is to drift when life gets full. What unfolds is not crisis, but clarity. The kind that comes when you realise that love, connection, and intentionality don’t sustain themselves. That date nights don’t just disappear but they are replaced by urgency and responsibility. This is a reminder that even those who speak about marriage publicly are not exempt from the quiet tensions that build behind the scenes. This conversation is about the sobering reality that marriage is not maintained by intention alone, but by continual return. The return to each other. The return to conversation. The return to choosing “us” in the midst of everything else demanding attention. It’s about recognising when you’ve lost rhythm, and having the humility to say it out loud before distance sets in. This episode is also an invitation. To be honest about the season you’re in. To acknowledge the pressure without pretending it isn’t there. And to remember that even in the chaos there is still an opportunity to fight for each other, to recalibrate, and to rediscover what it means to stay close when life is pulling you in every direction. Get in touch with us - thathusband@companyxfilms.com FOLLOW THAT HUSBAND PODCAST ON... TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathusbandpodcast INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thathusbandpodcast/

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Visit https://www.thathusband.com for merch, live event tickets, and other resources [S3] EPISODE 13: YOU'RE NOT LIVING IN A MOVIE

Can you step into the tension between who you are, who you have been, and who you are becoming, and all this, in the presence of one woman who sees it all?

Today, we explore the disorienting, yet sacred, moment when marriage asks us to consolidate every version of ourselves and offer it honestly. What begins to emerge is not performance, but process: the slow, sometimes clumsy journey of learning how to love, how to speak, and how to be seen without hiding.

At its core, this conversation wrestles with a truth many of us carry but rarely articulate: it’s not always that we don’t want to love well, it’s that we don’t know how. Together, we unpack the gap between what we feel and what we express, and the work it takes to build that bridge. We challenge the cultural assumptions placed on us, while also calling each other to humility, to growth, and to the kind of intentionality that turns small acts into lifelong devotion.

More than anything, this is a deeply personal look at what it means for us to be shaped by love. Not the idealised version, but the kind that confronts us, refines us, and calls us out of ourselves. It’s about choosing our wives, again and again, and allowing that choice to transform us. For us as husbands, this is both a mirror and an invitation: to fail forward, to learn openly, and to become the kind of men our love requires, even if we’ve never seen what that looks like before.

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