In this episode we dive deeper into what resilience is, is it something we are born with, what makes us resilient and how we can become more resilient.

Social media has turned relationships into a checklist. We’re constantly told to “find someone secure.” That avoidant people are walking red flags and anxious partners are just “too much”.

Attachment styles are presented as something we are born with, instead of what they really are: dynamic patterns.

In this episode, we explore:

- origins of Attachment theory

- how to identify your attachment style

- whether we can change it

- how to use it in a healthy way for our relationships

... plus some more!

Sources & interesting reads:

• Attachment quiz: https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/

• https://www.attachmentproject.com/⁠

• https://www.verywellmind.com/john-bowlby-biography-1907-1990-2795514

• Ainsworth, M. D. S., Blehar, M. C., Waters, E., & Wall, S. (1978). Patterns of attachment: A psychological study of the strange situation. Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum.

• Fraley, R. C., Roisman, G. I., Booth-LaForce, C., Owen, M. T., & Holland, A. S. (2013). Interpersonal and Genetic Origins of Adult Attachment Styles: A Longitudinal Study From Infancy to Early Adulthood. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 104(5), 817–838. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0031435
• Bakermans-Kranenburg, M. J., & van IJzendoorn, M. H. (2023). Sensitive responsiveness in expectant and new fathers. Current Opinion in Psychology, 50, Article 101580. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.copsyc.2023.101580

In this episode I talk about FOMO, a phenomenon that feels especially strong in the social media era. How can we recognize it and what can we do about it?

Sources & interesting reads:

• Przybylski, A. K., Murayama, K., DeHaan, C. R., & Gladwell, V. (2013). Motivational, emotional, and behavioral correlates of fear of missing out. Computers in Human Behavior, 29(4), 1841–1848. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.chb.2013.02.014

• Elhai, J. D., Yang, H., & Montag, C. (2021). Fear of missing out (FOMO): overview, theoretical underpinnings, and literature review on relations with severity of negative affectivity and problematic technology use. Revista Brasileira de Psiquiatria, 43(2), 203–209. https://doi.org/10.1590/1516-4446-2020-0870

• https://www.helpguide.org/mental-health/wellbeing/fear-of-missing-out-fomo

• https://www.thewellnesscorner.com/blog/transforming-fomo-to-jomo

• https://www.centreformentalhealth.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/CentreforMentalHealth_Briefing_53_Social_Media.pdf

• https://www.centreformentalhealth.org.uk/anxiety-loneliness-and-fear-missing-out-impact-social-media-young-peoples-mental-health/

• https://socialmediavictims.org/mental-health/fomo/#:~:text=Anxiety%20about%20missing%20out%20prompts,media%20and%20perpetuates%20the%20cycle

• “FoMO” is a key risk factor for mental health and burnout at work. (2024). In Mental Health Weekly Digest (p. 346). NewsRX LLC.

• Yuksel, P., & Zhang, W. (2025). A brief report on making meaning of FoMO: post-Covid mental health and wellbeing in Minority Serving Institute. Discover Mental Health, 5(1), Article 99. https://doi.org/10.1007/s44192-025-00240-3

• Kong, L., Sun, H., He, W., & Hu, W. (2024). Distraction or motivation? Unraveling the role of fear of missing out on college students’ learning engagement. BMC Psychology, 12(1), Article 687. https://doi.org/10.1186/s40359-024-02164-z