The Teaser:

What happens when nurses know exactly what families need—but aren't given the time, resources, or system to provide it? It burns.

In this episode of The 33 And Up Club, I sit down with Mary Farrelly, BSN, RNC-NIC—NICU nurse, founder of NICU Doula Academy, and host of The NICU Translated Podcast—to explore a question this question.

NICU nurses are trained to deliver exceptional clinical care.

But what happens when families need emotional care, practical support, and someone to help them process trauma—and the people most equipped to help are already stretched impossibly thin?

What if taking care of a family's non medical needs - their emotional well being - was never meant to be a nurses job.

What if I didn't have to end every shift soul deep sick with the knowledge that I can never do enough ...

If you've ever felt the moral distress of knowing what a family needed while simultaneously juggling alarms, charting, short staffing and impossible expectations—

this episode is for you.

This conversation is not about asking nurses to do more.

It is about asking:

What if nurses were never meant to carry all of this alone?

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The Details:

In this episode, Mary Farrelly of NICU Doula Academy joins me for a conversation about nursing burnout, moral distress, and the humanity gap that exists between what families need and what healthcare systems are designed to provide.

Mary shares her journey from NICU nurse and educator to founder of NICU Doula Academy,

Together we explore:

✓ moral distress and emotional labor and compassion fatigue

✓ customer service nursing

✓ fight / flight responses and family behavior in crisis

✓ communication and helping families process information

✓ end-of-life care and ethical complexity

✓ why “difficult families” may be traumatized families

✓ nursing culture (eating their young) translating to patient outcomes

✓ collaboration versus competition in healthcare

✓ and how supporting families may also support nurses.

✓ what NICU doulas actually do

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The Guest:

Mary Farrelly BSN, RNC-NIC

Founder of The NICU Doula Academy | Host of he NICU Translated Podcast

Mary Farrelly, BSN, RNC-NIC is a NICU nurse, educator, and founder of NICU Doula Academy, where she trains doulas and clinicians to better support NICU families through trauma-informed, collaborative, and emotionally supportive care. Recognizing the emotional and practical gaps that often exist in neonatal care, Mary developed NICU Doula Academy to help bridge the space between clinical excellence and human connection—supporting both families and the healthcare teams caring for them.

CONNECT WITH MARY

Instagram: @nicudoulaacademy

Podcast: @thenicutranslatedpodcast

Website + Training: TheNICUtranslator.com

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If you're a NICU professional - go sit at Mary's feet and bask in her light.

The Teaser:

What happens when medicine treats the body—but forgets the person?

In this episode of The 33 And Up Club, I sit down with Jess Tims—fertility doula, founder of HER Fertility Support, educator, and podcast host—for a conversation about healing, grief, and what it means to truly support someone through medical trauma.

Because fertility journeys, pregnancy loss, and reproductive care are often approached as biological problems to solve.

And yes—biology matters.

Medicine matters.

But what happens when excellent medical care still leaves someone feeling frightened, disconnected, and profoundly alone?

This conversation is not anti-medicine.

It is about the bridge.

The space between excellent medical care and emotional care—and why we need both.

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The Details:

Jess brings a uniquely compassionate perspective as a doula, energy healer, and somatic practitioner. Her practice:

✨bridges medical care and emotional support

✨ honors both the science and the lived experience

This conversation reminded me that healthy and healed are not always the same thing.

If you've ever felt dismissed, overwhelmed and disconnected from your body

If you've ever felt like the emotional side of your experience mattered less than the medical outcome—

this episode is for you.

Together we explore:

✨ infertility, pregnancy loss, maternal mental health

✨ emotional processing and nervous system awareness

✨ how stress and grief manifest in the body

✨ body literacy and intuition

✨ patient advocacy and communication

✨ why emotions need somewhere to go

✨ and how reconnecting with ourselves may be one of the most powerful forms of care

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The Guest:

ABOUT JESS TIMS

Fertility Doula • Educator • Founder, HER Fertility Support

✨American Society for Reproductive Medicine certified Fertility Doula,

✨Reiki Master

✨literal master communicator (she holds a masters in communications).

After her own experience with infertility and motherhood, Jess created the support she wished she had: HER Fertility Support. She uses energy work, subconscious healing, and somatic practice as the layer of support that medicine was never designed to provide.

Through HER Fertility Support, Jess offers:

• one on one client support

• fertility doula certification

• free podcast content

• bicoastal fertility support groups

• free masterclass

CONNECT WITH JESS:

Socials @herfertilitysupport

Website: Her.FertilitySupport

Podcast: HER Fertility Podcast

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And if your body has been asking for your attention—start listening.

The Teaser:

What happens when the career you chose to help heal the sick starts making you ill?

In this episode of The 33 And Up Club, I sit down with nurse coach, author, and former Chief Nursing Officer Yvonne Lyn-Siagian, MSN, RN, NE-BC, HWNC-BC to talk about something many healthcare providers feel—but often struggle to name:

burnout.

The kind that lives in your nervous system, follows you home after shift, and quietly convinces you that maybe you're just not resilient enough.

Spoiler: you're not T-Swift (ie. The Problem)

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The Details:

In this powerful conversation, Yvonne Lyn-Siagian shares what decades in nursing leadership taught her about burnout, nervous system overload, compassion fatigue, and the emotional weight healthcare workers silently carry.

Yvonne spent more than 30 years in nursing and 15 years in leadership—including executive and C-suite roles—before stepping into nurse coaching and burnout advocacy.

Together we explore why so many nurses feel disconnected from the work they once loved:

✨ the emotional and physical toll of healthcare careers

✨ why burnout is more than exhaustion

✨ how healthcare systems create moral distress

✨ what compassion fatigue actually feels like

✨ the physical ways stress shows up in the body

✨ what COVID left behind

✨ how financial stress compounds burnout

✨ practical “micro-actions” for healing

✨ why self-compassion may matter more than resilience training

✨ why so many nurses fantasize about leaving healthcare

✨ how to reconnect with yourself when your work no longer aligns with your values

This conversation felt less like an interview and more like someone finally putting words to experiences many nurses have carried silently for years.

If you've ever sat in your car after shift questioning all the life choices that led to this moment —

this episode is for you.

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The Guest:

About Yvonne Lyn-Siagian

MSN, RN, NE-BC, HWNC-BC Board Certified Nurse Coach Former Chief Nursing Officer Author + Nurse Advocate

Yvonne Lyn-Siagian is a nurse coach, healthcare leader, and former Chief Nursing Officer with more than three decades of nursing experience and 15 years in leadership.

After witnessing the growing emotional and physical toll of healthcare—particularly during and after COVID—Yvonne shifted her work toward helping nurses better understand burnout, nervous system overwhelm, and the impact of unprocessed stress and trauma.

Her work focuses on helping healthcare professionals reconnect with themselves, process burnout, and make intentional decisions about their future—whether that means staying in nursing, changing roles, or leaving altogether.

Connect with Yvonne

Instagram: @empoweredbyyvonne

Coaching & Burnout Recovery Quiet Code: beacons.ai/empoweredbyyvonne

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And if you’re a healthcare worker carrying more than you can explain—

this space was made for you.