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The Ars Amorata Podcast

The Ars Amorata Podcast

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Ars Amorata is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Join Zan Perrion and Jordan Luke Collier and a growing number of men around the world who are binding themselves to the mast, raging against mediocrity in all its forms, and defining their lives, themselves, and most importantly their relationships, on their own terms. Subscribe and listen each week to hear: ~ inspiring tales of love, heartbreak, debauchery and seduction across the seven seas, ~ thoughts on the next phase of art and science, ~ intimate and daring interviews with men and women, things you won’t hear anywhere else. Subscribe now and be part of the Ars Amorata podcast and without doubt, you too, will be blessed with a heightened sense of ease, delight, and mischief in your life!

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  • The Zan and Jordan Show — Restoring Beauty — The Beauty Song — On the Male Gaze and the Grace to See

    The Zan and Jordan Show — Restoring Beauty — The Beauty Song — On the Male Gaze and the Grace to See
    Jul 21 2026

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    Most men have been trained to see the “male gaze” as something to apologize for — a coarse, objectifying reflex to suppress or perform your way out of. Either you’re the bro who can’t see past a woman’s body, or you’re the guy in the loafers and matcha latte performing a “female gaze” so hard it becomes its own kind of costume.

    In this episode, Jordan revisits a line from The Alabaster Girl that’s followed him for thirteen years — women have a beauty song — and asks Zan whether it still holds. What follows is one of the most philosophically dense conversations on the podcast: gratitude as the lens that transforms looking into witnessing, the difference between a woman posed as a nude and a woman caught naked and unguarded, and why Zan refuses to be embarrassed about the fact that his eyes are drawn to the female form.

    They get into the man in the coffee shop who watches a woman order her latte and lets her walk out the door without chasing her — and why Zan calls that moment “code complete.” The phrase Zan wrote in his new book: a woman’s walk is the oldest promise in the world. Freud’s split between exhibitionism and voyeurism, and why every peep show needs a pervert. And Zan’s answer to the discourse around male gaze versus female gaze — which he’d never even heard of before Jordan brought it up.

    Watch until the end for Zan’s real-time reinterpretation of John Berger’s “nude vs. naked” distinction — and his own bikini-versus-underwear version of it.
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    Ars Amorata, Summer ’26:

    Text Her — Stan's course on apps and messaging: from swipe right to archetype. Opens soon.
    https://amorati.me/courses/text-her/

    Perception, Openness, Beauty — Online weekend intensive with Jordan, 18-19 July. Inside the Guild.
    https://arsamorata.com/guild/

    Desire in the Afternoon — Private salon-consultation with Jordan. 25-26 July, Bali. (Two-day option with embodied women's feedback newly added.)
    https://desireintheafternoon.carrd.co/

    Amorati Guild Summer Holiday — A beach weekend in Vama Veche with Zan. 21-23 August, Romania.
    https://arsamorata.com/guild/
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    Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/
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    Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 :
    https://amorati.me/free-gift/
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    Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity
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    ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure.

    Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you.

    Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether.

    Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos.

    Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world.
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    Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com

    Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com

    Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: / 1bid.. .
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    Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved.
    Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL.

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    41 mins
  • The Zan and Jordan Show — Restoring Beauty — When She Stops Wanting You — On Admiration, Contempt, and the Point of No Return

    The Zan and Jordan Show — Restoring Beauty — When She Stops Wanting You — On Admiration, Contempt, and the Point of No Return
    Jul 12 2026
    Send us Fan MailA Guild member sent in a message that stopped this episode cold. A friend of his — married, still in love with his wife — confided that she won’t have sex with him anymore. Not even a goodbye kiss. He found out she’s been using a vibrator. He can’t understand why she won’t let him be the one. And the group of friends around him, hearing this, offer the usual advice: book a weekend away, drop the kids at her sister’s, get her alone.Jordan and Zan don’t offer that advice. Instead, they take the story apart piece by piece — and land somewhere much harder and much more honest than “just try harder.”They get into what it actually means when a woman stops admiring her husband — not respect, something deeper — and why that, once gone, cannot be incremented back with flowers and date nights. The devastating truth that all the desperate gestures a man makes at 3am to save a dying relationship are exactly what he should have been doing all along, when things were good. Why “relationships are work” and “relationships are compromise” are, in Zan’s words, bullshit — and what he believes actually holds a marriage together instead. And the brutal timing problem: the moment a man finally feels the fear is usually the exact moment it’s already too late to act on it.Watch until the end for what Zan calls his gunslinger coaching — for the men who are in it right now, and need someone to ride in fast and find out if it’s still redeemable.🔗 A Full Year — Retreats, Community, Virtual Practice — to Forever Change your Interactions with Women: http://www.arsamorata.com/guild__________________________________________________Ars Amorata, Summer ’26:Text Her — Stan's course on apps and messaging: from swipe right to archetype. Opens soon.https://amorati.me/courses/text-her/Perception, Openness, Beauty — Online weekend intensive with Jordan, 18-19 July. Inside the Guild.https://arsamorata.com/guild/Desire in the Afternoon — Private salon-consultation with Jordan. 25-26 July, Bali. (Two-day option with embodied women's feedback newly added.)https://desireintheafternoon.carrd.co/Amorati Guild Summer Holiday — A beach weekend in Vama Veche with Zan. 21-23 August, Romania.https://arsamorata.com/guild/____________________________________________________Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/__________________________________Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 :https://amorati.me/free-gift/__________________________________Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity__________________________________________________ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure.Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you.Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether.Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos.Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world.__________________________________Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.comVisit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.comJoin our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: / 1bid.. .__________________________________________________Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved.Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL.Support the show
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    43 mins
  • The Zan and Jordan Show — Restoring Beauty — Overthinking (What’s going on with this girl I’m trying to date?)

    The Zan and Jordan Show — Restoring Beauty — Overthinking (What’s going on with this girl I’m trying to date?)
    Jun 22 2026
    Send us Fan MailYou go for a drink with a buddy, and he unloads what’s happened with his girl. A lot of push-pull, ignored texts, mood swings, drama. He wonders what’s going through her mind, and enlists your help in figuring her out too.What do you say?Do you engage your own anxious brainwaves, and try and decipher her motives? Or do you tackle the real issue on display:Never mind the woman… what’s going on with you?I don’t believe pondering a woman’s motives and feelings is entirely a fool’s game. But it’s amazing how men get caught in this loop. All day, all month, thinking of her, wondering what to text, how to approach the issue, how to get what you want without losing the little you already have.We all know what happens when we overthink things. Action ends up awkward. Whatever we end up saying or doing, it seems to drive her away.When it comes to drama, pulling away, mixed messages, heightened emotions, many men feel a subtle distress. And it’s the distress that drives these endless questions.What if, instead of the week lost chasing her in your mind, you could find tranquility amidst the storm? Today’s episode is about exactly that.Because in the end, 90% of drama resolves by itself. Let her unravel and come to you in good time.__________________________________________________If you're working with the patterns of a lifetime, and want to learn to hold yourself steady when desire and drama collide:I'm running a small private coaching afternoon called Desire in the Afternoon. An intimate consultation about your past, present and future with desire, lust, and love.DITA is a breakthrough session for a man dedicated to finding mastery in the themes of attraction and love.Oxford — Saturday June 27.Paris — Saturday July 4.Max. three seats per city. Details and application here: https://desireintheafternoon.carrd.co/Or, to go all in with me and Zan for a full calendar year, join The Guild: https://arsamorata.com/guild~ Jordan__________________________________________________#zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy #attraction #menandwomen #bodylanguage ____________________________________________________Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/__________________________________Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 :https://amorati.me/free-gift/__________________________________Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity__________________________________________________ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure.Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you.Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether.Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos.Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world.__________________________________Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.comVisit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.comJoin our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: / 1bid.. .__________________________________________________Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved.Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL.Support the show
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