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The Baddest Bitch in the Building

The Baddest Bitch in the Building

Written by: Neeki Motabar
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Join Neeki every Wednesday to learn how to take advantage of the patriarchy's loopholes and to unlearn the patriarchal conditioning keeping us small, quiet, nice girls.


"To learn the rules, you must play the game. To change the game, you must break the rules" 💋

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  • The 5 love languages: Genuine advice or Christian control in disguise?

    The 5 love languages: Genuine advice or Christian control in disguise?
    Dec 31 2025
    Most people think the five love languages are a pop psychology phenomenon. However, they're not rooted in psychology at all. The origins of the five love languages are closer to the Bible than to science, and they were never made as a tool to help women in their relationships.That's because they were created by Baptist preacher Gary Chapman, a man who's trained in Biblical counselling. His background involves no scientific or psychological training. The crazy thing is, that isn't even the most problematic part.I read Chapman's book, The 5 Love Languages, and in this episode I critically dissect his theory from a feminist lens in a way no one's ever done before. I'll discuss:The conservative & misogynistic origins of Biblical counsellingHow marriage counselling originated as a form of eugenics (& how this agenda found its way into the church)The sexist examples Chapman uses in his book, which shatter his credibilityThe HUGE problem with Chapman's sample (hint: they're all white, Christian, traditional couples)How the love languages map out PERFECTLY to the 5 points of Calvinism (a control-based branch of Protestantism that forms the foundation of Biblical counselling)Whether there's a better alternative to the love languagesSources:Awful '50s Marriage Advice Shows What Our Mothers And Grandmothers Were Up AgainstThe Biblical Counselling MovementThe “love languages” are a hoax by a Southern Baptist pastorThe Surprising History of Marriage Counselling __________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    55 mins
  • I turn 28 tomorrow & I'm terrified of aging

    I turn 28 tomorrow & I'm terrified of aging
    Dec 24 2025

    Tomorrow is my 28th birthday & I want to open up about a fear I've had for most of my 20s: aging.

    __________


    🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.



    👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.


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    • 🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg
    • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg
    • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com
    • 🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon
    • 💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays
    • 💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off


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    25 mins
  • Patriarchy demonized gossip because it hates when women speak

    Patriarchy demonized gossip because it hates when women speak
    Dec 17 2025
    Most of us think of gossip as something malicious. However, for centuries, gossip had no negative connotation. A woman's "gossip" were her close friends, and female friendships were a form of social power that gave women's lives fulfillment and security.It all became topsy turvy in the 16th century, when the church combined forces with labour guilds (you'll see what I mean). That's when gossip became demonized into something malicious, aggressive, and bitchy. Because patriarchy and early capitalism needed quiet, subservient women in order to function.In this episode, we'll discuss:Why patriarchy & controlling men are so scared of female friendshipsThe violent history of silencing womenHow men continue to silence womenThe role of gossip in human evolutionHow to reclaim gossip in your life starting today📚 Don't forget to get your copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy on Amazon or purchase the EPUB file.Sources:Gossip in Evolutionary PerspectiveThe Feminist Origins Of GossipThe scandalous origins of gossipWitches, Witch-Hunting, and Women__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays💄 Want a discount on clean makeup from an Indigenous-owned brand? Shop Cheekbone Beauty and use code NEEKI20 for 20% off Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    41 mins
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