Games in communication and dating are small vibes

In this third and final part of the Dr Love trilogy, we continue our journey through the list of shame of terrible dating and relationship. Communication advice scraped from social media.

There are many reasons that we can end up in a situation where games are being played but the worst thing is when that is the vibe of the connection from the beginning.

Not something pleasant to be on the receiving end of, and especially not pleasant when you have to unpack your own behaviours when you realise you’ve done this kind of thing in the past.

Seeing that these points only serve to separate ourselves my own intuition, desires, once and needs, they only serve to create more disconnection, hopelessness, frustration and dissatisfaction.

All energies that we can do with a lot less of in this life so there is no sense creating more of it for ourselves.

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In this weeks episode of the big soup Dr love returns by popular demand to continue unpacking some gloriously heinous and daft dating advice found across social media.

As we continue our journey through the list of shame, this week the topics discussed all point to the idea of treating people as commodities being a very bad thing.

Of course you don’t need to listen to this podcast to tell you that, but as we float here in the big soup, we have to explore what enhances the flavour and what makes it taste kind of gross.

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In this episode of the big soup we are taking a little look at some of the wild and weird takes around communication and relationships from social media.

We are living in very disconnected times and we are creating so many unnecessary rules for ourselves when it comes to connecting with other people and also communicating our needs.

Everyone is different, every relationship is different. Not one piece of advice is going to work for everyone and we need to make sure that we carve our own pathways when it comes to connection of any kind, not just romantic relationships.

As someone who is actively working in the spirituality/well-being/personal development world, a lot of of my work oscillates around helping people with their relationships.

Whether that is the relationship with themselves or the relationship with others, part of the problem I see often is people struggle with self advocacy. One of the fundamental foundations of self advocacy is being able to communicate your needs as well as understanding your needs across the board in life.

It is such a shame that we allow people to create these imaginary obstacle courses that people have to to navigate just to reach a foundational level of connection. As someone with a history of trauma and healing, there have been times in my life where I’ve been disconnected, difficult to know and also lacking an understanding of how this would create problems both for myself and others.

As we start to explore different ideas around communication and connection, it can help act as a balm for these very disconnected times we’re living in. Because particularly regressive ideologies thrive in environments isolation, disconnection.

Connect better with yourself, connect better with others and we are activating more drops in the wave of positive change.