Looking back over the last decade and especially this past year I share some highlights of my healing journey in the hopes it will help those of you who are either contemplating a healing journey or are perhaps at the beginning or middle of your healing journey.

Confusion is often the fruit of manipulation.

It shows up when someone is saying one thing… and doing another.

When their words don’t match their actions.

When you’re being told you’re the problem… while you’re the one trying to make sense of everything.

This is what gaslighting does.

It slowly disconnects you from your reality.

You start second-guessing yourself.

You start over-explaining yourself.

You start apologizing for things you didn’t even do.

And over time… you lose clarity.

But here’s the truth:

God does not speak in chaos.

God’s voice brings peace—even when it corrects you.

God’s Spirit brings clarity—even when it’s uncomfortable.

Love bombing feels AMAZING at first. That's the trap. Your brain gets flooded with dopamine and you think you've found 'the one.'

But it's calculated manipulation designed to bypass your logical thinking. Here are the 8 red flags I wish I'd known.

A Breakdown of 9 Red Flags to watch for when getting to know someone.

The Connection to our childhood trauma and the importance to slow down when getting to know someone.