Halloween is this week, and your brain is already on December. 🎃➡️🎄 Join me Nov 2-4 (10-11am MDT) for a 3-day workshop for moms (and dads) with ADHD who want to plan the holidays calmly instead of scrambling. We’ll find your seasonal delights, sort and schedule them, and protect them with a plan. Body doubling, accountability, and real support included. Do the holidays YOUR WAY! A value of $600 for only $37!

Sign up for The HOLIDAY GAME PLAN here--> kamdenadhdcoaching.com/holidays

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What if the relationships that exhaust you aren’t a sign you’re failing, but a sign you’ve been giving everyone the same seat at the table?

Let's talk about Kristen Carder's new book, You Are Not In Trouble and find out why improving your relationships may be the most overlooked key to productivity with ADHD.

Kristen is not only Kamden's Coach trainer, but also a great friend.

In this episode:

• Why childhood experiences can “form or deform” our adult relationships, and what a survey of 2,165 adults with ADHD revealed
• Why parents only need to get it right about 30 to 50 percent of the time, and why repair matters more than perfection
• How to stop gaslighting yourself and start believing the “ouch”
• Kristen’s four tiers of relationships, from the few people who are truly safe to the ones you’ve quietly voted off the island
• How to release the pressure of treating everyone the same, and why you can still see people as children of God without giving them access to your heart

Get on Kamden's wait list for The HOLIDAY GAME PLAN:  a three-day holiday planning workshop for the ADHD brain. kamdenadhdcoaching.com/holidays

There's a unique intersection of ADHD, womanhood, midlife, and navigating life as a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Hormonal shifts, midlife transitions, and menopause affect our faith, feelings, and daily life.

Kamden walks through eight questions she’d want answered if she were just discovering ADHD through the lens of faith:

-Does understanding your brain turn faith from a source of shame into relief?

-How do you keep track of callings and commitments without feeling like a failure?

-Why does “just pray harder” keep coming up, and how do you tell spiritual guidance from self-criticism?

-How do you explain ADHD to family, your bishop, or Relief Society sisters without justifying yourself?

-Is there space in your congregation to talk openly about mental health?

-How do you honor motherhood while your own needs, creativity, and work matter too?

-How do you stop comparing your inner experience to other women’s outward appearance?

-What does it look like to draw close to God as the person you actually are?

00:00 Welcome and Episode Setup 04:16 Menopause Story Spark 06:31 ADHD Book Resources 09:05 Faith Shame or Relief 14:05 Callings Without Failure 20:13 Pray Harder vs Criticism 28:37 Explaining ADHD and Delegation 34:13 Mental Health in Church 40:19 Motherhood and Selfhood 45:39 Comparison and Hormones 48:41 Drawing Close to God 51:51 Final Encouragement Along the way: why estrogen and dopamine matter for executive function, how delegation and accountability partners can help in a calling, what a helicopter-pilot story taught her about measuring the right goal, and why God’s rest for you may look different from your neurotypical neighbor’s. Resources mentioned: Your Brain’s Not Broken by Dr. Tamara Rosier ADHD and Women by Dr. Jolene Brighten ADHD 2.0 by Dr. Edward Hallowell and Dr. John Ratey Taking Charge of Adult ADHD by Dr. Russell Barkley How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis

In this episode, host and ADHD coach Kamden Hainsworth dives into the concept of the "ADHD tax"—the hidden financial, emotional, physical, and energetic costs that result from executive dysfunction. Opening with a candid story about an impulsive splurge on an upcycled Moroccan carpet jacket, Kamden breaks down how brain wiring, dysregulated nervous systems, and decision fatigue drive impulsive behaviors, avoidance, and burnout. Examples include overspending, forgotten subscriptions, mail avoidance leading to late fees, and depleted energy from late-night scrolling, gaming, or gambling-like dopamine cycles.

Rather than viewing these patterns as personal flaws, Kamden reframes them through the lens neuroplasticity and self-compassion.