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The Choose Yourself Channel

The Choose Yourself Channel

Written by: Hakeem Bourne Mcfarlane
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Hosted by Hakeem Bourne McFarlane, author of Choose Yourself to Be Chosen and founder of the Choose Yourself Community (CYC).

Welcome to The Choose Yourself Channel : where personal growth gets real, faith gets practical, and healing comes with humor.

This isn't your average self-help talk. It’s the CYC-GYM - where we flex the dorsal cortex, roast our old habits, and build foundations stronger than our excuses through accountability and innercise.

We talk discipline, desire, detoxing from dysfunction, and designing a life that actually feels good based on balance ... from cold showers to calling yourself out. One episode might sound like therapy, another like stand-up, and the next like church with better playlists and preachers.

Here, we don’t fake peace for followers. We face our triggers, evaluate our environments, and invest in our evolution. Because choosing yourself isn’t just a slogan ... it’s the daily sport of self-respect!

🐬 Expect truth. Expect laughter. Expect to be uncomfortable - in the best way. Join the movement every Tuesday at 10 a.m. with the Choose Yourself Community on zoom to meet other self choosers virtually hosted by Hakeem.

This is The Choose Yourself Channel. Raw. Relatable. Real as growth gets.

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Episodes
  • Dr. Dan Gubler - Choosing Yourself at the Molecular Level
    Jan 17 2026

    This episode of the Choose Yourself Channel explores what it really means to choose yourself when motivation alone isn’t enough. Dr. Dan Gubler shares how science has been part of his life for generations — from growing up in his grandfather’s lab to witnessing his grandfather’s battle with cancer, a moment that shaped his lifelong mission to use chemistry to transform health. What began as a career in synthesizing pharmaceutical drugs turned into a defining realization: many of the same effects could be achieved through molecules found in plants, without the harsh side effects. That realization led him away from synthetic drugs and into the natural product world.

    Throughout the conversation, we walk through the Choose Yourself process in a practical, human way. Triggers show up as illness, fatigue, inflammation, food noise, and chronic cravings. Environment expands beyond people and habits into food, water, air, soil, and the chemical overload of modern life. Dr. Dan explains why inflammation sits at the root of nearly all disease, how lifeless food lacking vitamins, minerals, and phytonutrients disrupts hunger hormones, and why the body often isn’t craving more food — it’s craving nourishment it’s not receiving.

    We dive into GLP-1 signaling, weight regulation, and the difference between synthetic injectables and natural peptides. Dr. Dan breaks down complex science using simple metaphors, explaining how synthetic drugs act like keys jammed into locks, while natural molecules gently activate and release receptors as the body was designed to do. He explains why preserving lean muscle, bone density, and metabolic balance matters more than rapid weight loss, and how appetite suppression becomes healing only when it restores awareness rather than eliminates hunger altogether.

    The conversation also expands into fasting, gut health, and energy regulation. Dr. Dan shares how fasting allows the body to step out of crisis mode and resolve deep-seated inflammation, why regulating blood sugar and insulin is critical for repairing gut-brain communication, and how GLP-1 acts as a master regulator influencing metabolism, neurotransmitters, and even addiction pathways. Together, we explore why small, consistent changes compound into massive health outcomes .. not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

    Episode Takeaways

    • Choosing yourself applies to biology just as much as mindset
    • Inflammation and nutrient depletion quietly drive cravings and fatigue
    • Synthetic shortcuts often solve symptoms while creating new problems
    • Natural regulation supports long-term balance, not just short-term results
    • Hunger, energy, and discipline improve when physiology is supported
    • Small daily changes compound into massive health outcomes

    This conversation invites a deeper question: if your body had the right tools, would choosing yourself finally feel sustainable? Dr. Dan’s work reminds us that discipline becomes easier when the body is supported, awareness returns when systems are balanced, and real health is built through alignment .. not force.

    Choosing yourself isn’t just a mindset. It’s a biological process.

    Grow With Me ⬇️

    🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.) ❤️‍🩹 Choose Yourself, Heal Your Gut Webinar 🏝️ Costa Rica Retreat 📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen 🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

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    49 mins
  • Choosing Yourself Is Universal - Season 2 opens + (Dr. Dan Gubler Preview)
    Jan 17 2026

    Season one showed us something powerful: choosing yourself isn’t a personality trait, it’s a process. Different guests, different stories, different “meat suits,” but the same pattern every single time TEFIC: triggers, environment, foundation, investment, and contribution. We didn’t just talk about success; we talked about survival, alignment, integrity, and what it actually took to get there. Most people weren’t broken — they were just unprepared — and when motivation faded, they fell to the level of their preparation.

    This Season 2 preview sets the tone for what’s next. Choosing yourself is still the mission, but now we’re going deeper into the environments that make that choice harder : toxins in food, water, air, screens, chemicals, and overstimulation. We get into inflammation, fatigue, cravings, weight gain, discipline, and why self-control becomes nearly impossible when the body is depleted and inflamed. This next episode also introduces Dr. Dan Gubler’s story .. leaving synthetic pharmaceutical sales, questioning the systems he was told to trust, and turning back to nature to support gut health, metabolism, hunger signaling, and real regulation instead of shortcuts.

    The question that opens Season 2 is simple: If choosing yourself feels harder than it should… is it really a character issue, or is it an environment issue?

    Grow With Me ⬇️

    🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.) ❤️‍🩹 Choose Yourself, Heal Your Gut Webinar 🏝️ Costa Rica Retreat 📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen 🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

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    10 mins
  • Nate O'Brien - You Don’t Rise to the Moment, You Fall to Your Foundation
    Jan 16 2026

    This conversation with Nate O'brien centers on a simple truth: preparation matters more than motivation when pressure shows up. We talk about why so many people want the glow-up without the groundwork, praying for growth but panicking when adversity arrives because the work wasn’t done beforehand. Nate speaks from lived experience - not theory - sharing what it looks like when life applies real pressure through loss, responsibility, and uncertainty, and why foundation, not talent or hype, determines what holds.

    Throughout the episode, we move through the Choose Yourself process in real time. Triggers are named, especially numbing, masking, and avoidance, and why they don’t disappear when ignored .. they get louder. We explore environment beyond substances, into conversations, media, habits, and energy drains, and why choosing yourself can feel lonely when old people, places, and patterns no longer align. Discipline, early mornings, cold exposure, and routine are framed not as punishment, but as preparation for grief, stress, and the uncontrollables that eventually come for everyone.

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    Episode Takeaways

    • Preparation matters more than motivation when pressure shows up
    • Triggers get louder when ignored
    • Chronic stress and avoidance weaken decision-making and emotional control
    • Environment includes people, media, and daily inputs
    • Discipline isn’t punishment — it’s preparation
    • Poor systems cost more than humility and mentorship

    This episode ultimately comes back to responsibility, not in a heavy way, but in an empowering one. We talk about ego, systems, mentorship, and how one honest conversation or apology can completely change the direction of a relationship, a business, or a season of life. The message isn’t to do more.. it’s to be ready, so when life shows up, you don’t fold.

    “If opportunity or adversity showed up tomorrow, would your mind, body, and character be ready?”

    Grow With Me ⬇️

    🐬 CYC Zoom (Tuesdays 10 a.m.) ❤️‍🩹 Choose Yourself, Heal Your Gut Webinar 🏝️ Costa Rica Retreat 📖 Choose Yourself to Be Chosen 🎙️ Choose Yourself Channel

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    58 mins
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