Divorce can feel like a battle over custody, finances, and who was “right.” But in this episode, I challenge the idea that winning in court means winning in life. I break down research on high-conflict divorce, co-parenting outcomes, children’s long-term wellbeing, mental health during divorce, and the financial mistakes many people make during litigation.

If you’re going through divorce or navigating separation, I share a strategic framework to help you think beyond short-term victories and focus on emotional stability, financial security, and rebuilding your identity. The goal isn’t to win the divorce. It’s to win your future.

• 01:50 The Illusion of Winning: What Does Victory Mean?
• 02:46 Act One: The Illusion of Winning
• 04:08 The Real Cost of High-Conflict Divorce
• 05:02 The Legal Process vs. The Life Process
• 06:18 Research Insights: Long-Term Effects of Conflict
• 08:04 The Five-Year Filter: A Tool for Decision Making
• 10:16 Act Two: The Architecture of Winning the Future
• 10:35 Pillar One: Emotional and Mental Health
• 11:59 Pillar Two: Co-Parenting and Children's Wellbeing
• 13:30 Pillar Three: Financial Stability
• 14:23 Pillar Four: Identity Reconstruction
• 15:57 Pillar Five: Long-Term Peace and Resilience
• 17:18 Act Three: Becoming You 2.0
• 18:46 Real Stories of Transformation
• 22:21 Conclusion: Winning Your Life, Not Just the Case

Most people don't realize Valentine’s Day is less a cause of relationship problems and more a mirror revealing what's already broken. If you’re navigating heartbreak, separation, or divorce this episode helps you decode what Valentine’s Day exposes about your relationship and your emotional state and how to turn it into an opportunity for growth.

00:00 Introduction: Valentine's Day and Relationship Breakdowns

• 01:14 Episode Overview: Roses, Reality, and Ruptures
• 02:03 Valentine's Day: The Super Bowl of Expectations
• 04:56 Emotional Accelerator: Valentine's Day Reveals, Not Causes
• 06:15 Emotional Audit: Questions to Ask Yourself
• 08:03 Divorce Season: Why Breakups Spike
• 08:59 Three Valentine's Day Experiences: Celebration, Disappointment, Aftermath
• 11:56 Cognitive Dissonance and Deadline Effects
• 15:02 Surviving Valentine's Day: Principles for Singles and Divorced
• 19:35 Valentine's Day and Co-Parenting
• 23:00 Reframe: Valentine's Day as a Mirror, Not a Measure
• 24:58 Valentine's Day as a Data Point in Personal Growth
• 27:55 Self-Leadership: How to Navigate Valentine's Day
• 28:52 Conclusion: Reclaim and Reboot Divorce Coaching

In this episode of the Conscious Divorce Podcast, I dive deep into the challenges and strategies of protecting kids through divorce. As a parent, navigating co-parenting with a narcissist co-parent can be daunting, but it's crucial to focus on what's best for the children. I share insights on how to manage parental alienation and ensure your kids thrive despite the circumstances. Join me as I explore evidence-based strategies to create a nurturing environment for your children, even in the face of adversity.

Chapters:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 03:15 Protecting Kids Through Divorce
• 06:45 Co-Parenting Strategies
• 10:30 Dealing with a Narcissist Co-Parent
• 14:00 Understanding Parental Alienation
• 18:00 Conclusion