A drained wedding savings fund reveals financial incompatibility, broken promises, and major red flags before this engaged couple gets married.

In this episode of The Engagement Edit, a real engagement story reveals what happens when shared visions, financial priorities, and stress responses are not truly aligned. This situation is NOT about gaming. It's about betrayed financial agreements, misaligned money values, emotional withdrawal under stress, and red flags before “I do."

Money is one of the leading causes of divorce. Financial incompatibility rarely appears dramatic at first; rather, it shows up in small decisions, avoided conversations, and unilateral choices like the one this Reddit Poster experienced.

Inside this episode, we'll cover:

– The real issue behind the $8,000 decision

– Why “earning it back” misses the point

– How stress reveals long-term marriage patterns

– Three critical financial compatibility questions to ask before marriage

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🎯 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - The Reddit Story Preview

01:05 - The Reality of $8,000 in Savings

02:23 - Conflicting Money Mindsets

04:04 - The Purchase That Ruined Everything

08:19 - The Behavior Shift

10:55 - The Only One Who Can Change the Fiancé

13:05 - Three Vital Questions for Your Relationship

🖥️ Original Reddit Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/ho0thi/my_fiancé_25m_spent_our_entire_savings_which_we/

RESEARCH MENTIONED

📚 Autonomy in Relatedness: How Need Fulfillment Interacts in CloseRelationships: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7057354/pdf/10.1177_0146167219867964.pdf

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This person bought an engagement ring, checked all the healthy relationship boxes, and still aren't sure they want to get married. Why? Because they're trapped in what research calls "alternative search" — always wondering if something better is out there.In this episode, we'll break down a Reddit story about someone who would leave their significant other if they knew a better relationship existed, and what the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships reveals about how constantly searching for "better" can destroy the good in the relationship you're in.This episode is for you if you're engaged and wondering if you should feel more excited, if your relationship looks perfect on paper but doesn't feel like the movies, or if you secretly compare your relationship to everyone else's highlight reel.🔽 Download The Comparison Detox Guide for FREE Here: https://blissfullyhitched.com/comparison-detox🎯 TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - The Reddit Story Preview01:14 - Don't Suppress Your Feelings02:52 - Self-Awareness is Necessary05:35 - What the Reddit Comments Said06:28 - Comparing & Chasing08:07 - The Research on "Choosing the Best" vs "Alternative Search"09:24 - At Some Point, You Have to...12:05 - How You Can Detox from Relationship Comparison🖥️ Original Reddit Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1mjr8do/i_30m_bought_a_ring_but_im_not_excited_to_get/RESEARCH MENTIONED📚 Development of the Revised Relational Maximization Scale and explorations of how relational maximization relates to personal and relational outcomes: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0265407520928122🌎GET CONNECTEDEmail: hello@blissfullyhitched.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the.engagement.editInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.engagement.edit🎧 Music: Whiskey Ginger by Dylan Sitts The Engagement Edit Podcast features deep-dives into engagement stories and turns them into relationship lessons you can learn from.New episodes every Thursday → Subscribe so you don't miss the next one.#engagementadvice #relationshipredflags #relationshipresearch

🔽 Take the Emotional Safety Questionnaire for FREE Here: https://blissfullyhitched.com/emotionalsafetyquiz 🖥️ Original Reddit Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1mn398m/fianc%C3%A9_34m_is_allergic_to_cats_but_proposed_to_me/ RESEARCH MENTIONED📚 Pursuing Safety in Social Connection: A Flexibly Fluid Perspective on Risk Regulation in Relationships: https://www.annualreviews.org/content/journals/10.1146/annurev-psych-011123-024815 📚 Suppression sours sacrifice: emotional and relational costs of suppressing emotions in romantic relationships: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22389432/☎️ Resources for Serious Relationship Concerns:* National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233* Text "START" to 88788* Visit thehotline.org for chat support🎧 Music: Whiskey Ginger by Dylan Sitts GET IN TOUCH🌎 Email: hello@blissfullyhitched.com

Download The Big Decision Framework Guide for FREE Here: https://blissfullyhitched.com/big-decision-guideOriginal Reddit Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1ljg4ax/im_26f_supposed_to_be_getting_married_in_6_months/RESEARCH MENTIONED📚 Perceiving greater commitment increases selfishness among disagreeable people: https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0303693📚 Avoidant Attachment, Withdrawal-Aggression Conflict Pattern, and Relationship Satisfaction: A Mediational Dyadic Model: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8841843/pdf/fpsyg-12-794942.pdf📚 Lightening the Load: Perceived Partner Responsiveness FostersMore Positive Appraisals of Relational Sacrifices: https://labsites.rochester.edu/lelab/wp-content/uploads/2022/12/Visserman-et-al.-2022-Perceived-partner-responsiveness-fosters-more-positive-appraisals-of-relational-sacrifices.pdf

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🖥️ Original Reddit Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1pkfy1d/aitah_for_canceling_my_wedding_over_the_cost_of/

RESEARCH MENTIONED

📚 Equal Partnership Through Mutual Attunement and Mutual Decision-Making: https://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/familyperspectives/vol2/iss2/2/

📚 When couples fight about money, what do they fight about?: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10632137/#sec19-02654075231187897

📚 Fidelity Couples & Money Study: https://preview.thenewsmarket.com/Previews/FINP/DocumentAssets/660835_v4.pdf

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