This episode is a reminder of how prejudice can soften when we look beyond policies to see real people, and it feels especially important to bring it back now. In this re-release of a past conversation, I’m joined by my dear friend Alex Regan, a trans man, interfaith minister, speaker, author, and transformative spiritual coach. Meeting Alex changed my life because it replaced my experience of an abstract label with a real human being with a nervous system, a story, hopes, and fears just like me. Once you see someone clearly like that, it becomes much harder to ignore how they are being treated. My hope is that hearing Alex’s story will create that same kind of shift for you. Here’s what I cover:

• How stories reduce prejudice by turning a “group” into a real person you actually care about
• How good girl conditioning trains us to abandon ourselves and why that wiring shows up everywhere
• Alex’s journey of unlearning evangelical rules and building trust in his own inner knowing
• What it looks like to stop fighting for approval and let people be wrong about you
• How community changes everything when you stop performing and start living as your real self

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It’s so easy to feel stuck and overwhelmed when we haven’t figured something out yet. But what if you looked for the evidence in your life that you can solve the problem? In this episode, I share how I’m borrowing belief from my past self to help me make a decision I’m wrestling with now. Instead of demanding certainty or shaming myself for not knowing the answer, I’m using real proof from my own history to help me relax while I take the time to figure it out. Here’s what I cover:

• How leaving the church one step at a time taught me how to untangle my beliefs
• Why your brain relaxes when you offer it real evidence from your past
• How to copy and paste a past growth process onto the problem you’re facing today
• The self-judgment that creeps in when you think you should have it figured out by now
• A powerful visualization to help you imagine the future version of you who already solved the problem

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

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The overwhelming amount of information, emotion, and terror we are experiencing in the world right now can make it hard to know what to do with ourselves. Last week’s episode came from my own experience of feeling like I was going to break and realizing my nervous system was completely overloaded. In this episode, I build on that and talk about what to do—because it’s not enough to say you will “just get off social media” or “stop doom scrolling.” If it were that simple, I would have stopped, and maybe you would have too. We’ll look at why this is so hard to put down and what it takes to step back in a way that allows you to stay informed without losing yourself in the crush of information. Here’s what I cover:

• Why doom scrolling is not activism and can hinder you from taking thoughtful action
• The good girl rules that make disengaging feel like a moral failing
• Why learning to regulate your nervous system can be a powerful form of resistance
• What happens when your reptile brain takes over and you’re stuck in looping thoughts
• Practical ways to regulate so you can stay informed and respond in ways that actually help

Find Sara here:

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www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/

www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/

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www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333

What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

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