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The reason you’re not getting useful feedback isn’t that nobody has anything to say. It’s that you’re not asking in a way that makes honesty possible.

In this episode of the Psych Leadership Podcast, host Luke UpChurch breaks down the psychology behind why most feedback requests fail — and how asking better questions changes everything about the quality of information you get back. Grounded in research on psychological safety, feedback-seeking behavior, and what actually drives professional growth, this episode gives you a practical five-principle framework for turning feedback from something that happens to you into something you actively architect.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why broad questions like ‘how am I doing?’ almost always produce useless answers — and the psychology behind why people default to comfortable over honest
• How psychological safety determines the quality of the feedback you receive — and how to create it in any conversation
• The difference between asking about impact vs. intent — and why it changes everything about what comes back
• A five-principle question framework for getting specific, honest, actionable feedback from the people around you
• Why closing the loop out loud is the move that turns a one-time feedback conversation into an ongoing developmental relationship

The quality of the feedback you receive is almost entirely a function of how you ask. And now you’ll know how to ask.

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NEW BOOK -- "Tactical Mentoring: A Guide to Unlocking Your Potential" - By Luke UpChurch

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