Most leaders were promoted because they had answers. But the higher you rise, the more dangerous that habit can become.
When every problem runs through you, your team gets slower. When every answer comes from you, your people stop thinking as deeply. And when your identity becomes being the helpful problem-solver, you can quietly become the bottleneck.
In this episode of The Good Leadership Podcast, Charles Good sits down with Michael Bungay Stanier, bestselling author of The Coaching Habit, to explore how leaders can stop giving advice too quickly and start building stronger, more independent teams through better coaching questions.
Michael shares insights from the 10th anniversary edition of The Coaching Habit, including why being coach-like is not about becoming a full-time coach, why the Advice Monster is so hard to tame, and how seven simple questions can transform everyday leadership conversations.
In this conversation, you’ll learn:
How to use coaching questions in five-minute conversations, not just formal coaching sessions
Why “And what else?” may be one of the most powerful leadership questions ever created
How to move from surface-level problem solving to real development by asking, “What’s the real challenge here for you?”
Why the Advice Monster shows up even in smart, well-intentioned leaders
How coaching becomes even more important in an AI age, where fast answers are everywhere but human presence, listening, and encouragement still matter most
This episode is for any leader, manager, coach, or HR/L&D professional who wants to build ownership, reduce dependency, and help people think better for themselves.
Listen now to learn how to stop rescuing, stay curious longer, and start coaching better.
Learn more about Michael Bungay Stanier: [https://www.mbs.works/about/]
Michael's book: The Coaching Habit 10th anniversary edition [https://a.co/d/0dgG1ww7]
Chapters
00:00 The Seven Essential Questions of Coaching
04:17 Navigating Challenges in Conversations
05:58 Understanding the 'What Do You Want?' Question
08:58 The Importance of Asking 'What Else?'
10:28 Avoiding the Rescuer Role in Leadership
15:10 Strategic Decision-Making: Saying No
17:27 The Paradox of Confident Humility
17:48 Building Coaching Habits Effectively
22:31 Redirecting Conversations Back to the Individual
24:01 Empowering Employees to Ask Questions
25:16 The Role of Illustrations in Learning
29:29 The Future of the Coaching Habit Podcast
32:31 Key Insights and Takeaways
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