Episodes

  • The Two Relationship Tools You Need

    The Two Relationship Tools You Need
    Feb 10 2026
    I’m sharing the two best, and least used, relationship tools I know. We didn’t get a class on this, so most of us are winging it. And no, I’m not teaching voodoo Jedi mind tricks to change your partner. This is about making it easier to be in relationship with you. The first tool is validating your partner’s experience, even when it’s different from yours. That builds trust and safety. Validation is not agreement. It’s simply, “I can see how you’d see it that way.” The second tool is taking 100% accountability for your thoughts, feelings, and actions. That’s where your power lives. As I say in the episode, “I almost got a tattoo that said, ‘It’s all me.’” Use these two tools and you’ll feel the shift, starting with you.
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    14 mins
  • When Relationships End: Boundaries and Skills

    When Relationships End: Boundaries and Skills
    Feb 3 2026
    I’m talking about when relationships end, not just marriages, but family ties and friendships. More people are going no contact as we learn what’s healthy and set boundaries, but I remind you that “health resides in the middle.” Sometimes we need distance. Sometimes our seasons of life just don’t match. I share the three core skills that keep long-term relationships alive and how communication ties it all together. As we get better at these, we may outgrow some relationships, and that’s a hard truth. I also share how I set boundaries and why fewer, tighter relationships can be healthier and more sustainable. Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.
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    16 mins
  • I Knew Divorce Would Be Hard

    I Knew Divorce Would Be Hard
    Jan 27 2026
    In this episode, I get honest about knowing divorce would be hard and then discovering what’s actually hard once you’re in it. I talk about co‑parenting as the biggest pain point. Why you can’t control an ex but you can influence, and how two different parenting styles can actually help your kids. I share a simple mindset shift and a practical fix for communication: add structure, like a monthly coffee to review the kids, what’s working, and what’s not. We also name what you don’t see coming: new partners showing up fast, moving homes, friends and family choosing sides, and the grief and loneliness that can wash over you. Be gentle with yourself, because you’re in a real transformation. I give you journaling prompts to create closure, gratitude, and intention for how you want to carry yourself. Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.
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    32 mins
  • Ask Yourself the Right Questions in Marriage

    Ask Yourself the Right Questions in Marriage
    Jan 20 2026
    A morning meditation with Wayne Dyer stopped me in my tracks: "...Freedom does not come from avoiding the pain. It comes from walking through it with your heart wide open." In this episode, I share a simple three-part path for moving through marriage challenges with courage. First, I separate facts from my thoughts and choose the story that serves me. Then I ask better, braver questions that reveal the truths I’ve been avoiding. Finally, I use those answers and my tools to turn pain into growth, with practice and accountability. I talk about stepping out of victim mode, keeping my heart open, and loving you enough to tell you the truth, so you can become the woman you know you are and create a healthy, connected relationship. Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.
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    18 mins
  • Why We Monkey Bar Before Leaving

    Why We Monkey Bar Before Leaving
    Jan 13 2026
    In this episode, I unpack “monkey barring,” which is reaching for the next relationship before you’ve let go of the last. It often looks like cheating, but it’s really about fear, codependency, and avoiding hard conversations. We use an affair like an emotional safety net because being alone feels scary. I name how affairs distract us from the real problems at home and how easy it is to get hooked on external validation. I also show you what it can sound like to tell your partner you felt a tinge of attraction and use that as a doorway back to each other. A lot of us were never taught how to do this. But these skills are learnable. And you’re capable of them. Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.
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    17 mins
  • Warning Signs Your Marriage Is in Trouble

    Warning Signs Your Marriage Is in Trouble
    Jan 6 2026
    I’m breaking down how to know when your marriage is in real trouble, using a TV moment that felt all too real: a late‑night “We need to talk,” an “I’m not happy,” and a packed bag by the door. By the time someone says I’m not happy, things are already serious. That phrase is vague, blaming, and usually too late. Many partners brush it off, not because they don’t care, but because they don’t know what to do. Then years pass, nothing changes, and we hear, “You should have said it louder.” I walk through the subtle red flags most people ignore at first. The small shifts in connection, the growing irritations, the distance that sneaks up on you. If part of you knows something is off but you’ve been afraid to name it, this conversation will speak to you. If any of this sounds familiar, roll up your sleeves and address it now. It won’t fix itself, and waiting only makes the next conversation harder. Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.
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    17 mins
  • Emotional Adulthood In Marriage

    Emotional Adulthood In Marriage
    Dec 30 2025
    I’m unpacking emotional adulthood through a client’s story. I challenge the idea of “make it work.” We can aim higher than a marriage that doesn’t suck. I walk you through naming your unspoken rules, keeping only the few that matter, and actually saying them out loud. Your thoughts create your feelings, not your partner. The thing that once made you laugh only became annoying when your thought about it changed. We all slip into blame because change is hard. But long-term love asks more of us. “Much like bread needs yeast, relationships need emotional adulthood.” - Sharon Pope Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.
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    16 mins
  • A Different Kind of Love: Coaching

    A Different Kind of Love: Coaching
    Dec 23 2025
    Your coach isn’t your bestie. And that’s a good thing. When you admit your marriage is in trouble, you need love that sees your blind spots, challenges your excuses, and won’t let you settle. I share a Q&A moment where a woman wanted a pep talk about reconciling while still in an affair. I paused and chose the truth: “I could make you feel better, but I kind of don’t want to.” I called her higher, named the avoidance, and laid out her real choices: end the affair and give the marriage your all release the marriage and see where the affair goes keep lying until it blows up That’s the love I offer as a coach: I hold up the mirror and walk beside you while you do the hard, honest work. Because “when someone pushes you to be better, it’s not criticism. It’s an act of love.” Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer? Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.
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    17 mins