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The Old Men And The Seat

The Old Men And The Seat

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“At our age, the end is much closer than the beginning”.


Two old men sit down every week to reflect on their experiences through life, how they live their lives in the present day, and most importantly, how they’ve stopped giving a sh*t.

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  • 38 - Chosen Family and the Weight of Things
    Jan 11 2026

    Byron and Paul are back after a two-month break, reuniting in their home podcast studio to catch up on Christmas, family, and the things that weigh us down.


    The conversation opens with reflections on their Christmas celebrations. Byron shares the joy of spending Christmas morning with Paul and their sons, watching the now-adult boys slip back into childhood as they played Nintendo Wii together for hours. But beyond the warmth, Byron opens up about a significant decision: not inviting his father to Christmas.


    This leads to a raw and honest discussion about cutting ties with toxic family members, the relief that comes with such decisions, and the cultural expectations that make them so difficult - particularly for Byron, who comes from a Chinese background where family obligation runs deep. Paul shares his own experience of making similar choices 30 years ago, and neither has a moment's regret.


    The hosts explore what family really means to them now: it's not about bloodlines, but about the people who show up, who love you, and who you choose to have in your life. Friends, neighbours, and chosen family take centre stage.


    The episode then shifts to a thoughtful examination of possessions and the burden they carry. From luxury watches locked away in safety deposit boxes to semi-professional kitchen equipment sitting unused, Byron and Paul discuss the emotional and financial weight of the things we accumulate. They touch on:


    - The Pieter Levels digital nomad philosophy of owning only what fits in a backpack

    - Marie Kondo's "Does it bring you joy?" approach to decluttering

    - The hidden costs of ownership: insurance, maintenance, storage, and time

    - The difference between assets (things that bring joy and utility) and liabilities (things we own but don't use)

    - Digital ownership illusions (the Bruce Willis movie library lesson)

    - Cherished possessions worth keeping, like Byron's copy of A Gentleman in Moscow by Amor Towles


    As two men in their mid-fifties, they reflect on the journey toward simplicity: fewer possessions, more authentic relationships, and a focus on what truly matters - time and the people we love.

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    29 mins
  • 37 - Dementia, Stress, and the Cost of Living Crisis: The Bodhi Tree (SONG 2)
    Nov 16 2025
    Our second AI-generated song for Episode 37 - Dementia, Stress, and the Cost of Living Crisis

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    6 mins
  • 37 - Dementia, Stress, and the Cost of Living Crisis: The Bodhi Tree (SONG 1)
    Nov 16 2025
    Our first AI-generated song for Episode 37 - Dementia, Stress, and the Cost of Living Crisis

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    4 mins
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