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The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

Written by: Tammy Sollenberger
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 The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems podcast is for anyone looking to find balance and harmony. IFS can help you understand the tug-of-war within your mind and rediscover your natural calm, creativity, and clarity. IFS can also heal the parts of you who hold pain. Hosted by certified IFS therapist, Tammy Sollenberger, this show aims to educate, support, and encourage those who are curious about IFS model of psychotherapy. Join Tammy each episode for a fun, warm, engaging conversation with various members of the IFS community.Tammy Sollenberger 2025 Hygiene & Healthy Living Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Self-Help Success
Episodes
  • Are You Mad At Me? with Meg Josephson

    Are You Mad At Me? with Meg Josephson
    Mar 3 2026

    On today's episode I welcome psychotherapist and author Meg Josephson to the podcast.

    Her book Are You Mad at Me? names something so many of us feel but rarely say out loud: Did I do something wrong? Are you mad at me?

    Meg and I talk about the fawn response, people-pleasing, and the parts of us that learned early on to stay ahead of conflict. We explore how "being nice" can disconnect us from ourselves, why grief and anger are essential to healing, and how mindfulness helps us slow down enough to notice what's really happening inside.

    If you've ever swallowed your needs to keep the peace, felt resentful after saying yes, or worried that one mistake could cost you connection, our conversation will resonate.

    We Explore:
    • Why "Are you mad at me?" isn't really a question, but a feeling.
    • The difference between being nice and being compassionate.
    • How grief challenges the hope that if we try harder, we'll finally be seen.
    • Small corrective experiences that help our parts learn we're actually safe.

    Here's a link to the workshop she mentioned in the episode.

    About Meg Josephson

    Meg Josephson, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist and the author of the New York Times bestselling book Are You Mad at Me?, which has been translated into over 20 languages. In her private practice, she specializes in trauma-informed care through a mindfulness-based, compassion-focused lens. She holds a Master of Social Work from Columbia University.

    Episode Sponsor: Cape Cod Institute

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    Choose from 38 half-day courses, either in person on Cape Cod or live online. Spend your mornings learning, and your afternoons applying insights, connecting with colleagues, or exploring the Cape.

    If you use IFS, this is a rare opportunity to learn directly from the people shaping the model. A dedicated IFS Week features Richard Schwartz and IFS practitioners teaching couples work, addictive processes, leadership, disordered eating, and psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy.

    Learn more and register at cape.org, and use code theoneinside2026 for $50 off.

    About The One Inside

    I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

    • Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.

    • Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.

    • Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.

    • Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

    I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

    Resources

    • New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start.

    • Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

    Sponsorship

    Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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    36 mins
  • Integrating IFS and Listening Therapies with Marcella Cox

    Integrating IFS and Listening Therapies with Marcella Cox
    Feb 23 2026
    In today's episode, I welcome my friend Marcella Cox back to the podcast. Marcella is a certified IFS therapist, approved consultant, and somatic IFS assistant trainer. She's also a certified Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) and Rest and Restore provider, and the lead author of the new guidelines for integrating IFS with these listening therapies. We talk about: The basics of polyvagal theory How our nervous system states impact our parts Why co-regulation is central to healing The difference between SSP (connection to others) and Rest and Restore (connection to Self) How listening therapies can support safety in the body and allow more Self Energy to emerge I also share my own experience trying SSP with Marcella. I experienced some surprising physical shifts and insights that came up after a few short listening sessions. If you're curious about nervous system regulation and how it can deepen your IFS work, I think you'll really appreciate this conversation. About Marcella Cox Marcella Cox, LMFT, is a therapist, author, and presenter devoted to exploring the intersection of embodiment, trauma healing, and eating disorder recovery. She is a Level 3 Certified IFS Therapist, an Approved IFS Clinical Consultant, and an Assistant Trainer for Somatic IFS, the model developed by Susan McConnell. She provides consultation and leads workshops, trainings, and retreats for professionals on IFS for disordered eating, Somatic IFS, and integrating IFS with the Safe & Sound Protocol and is the lead author of the IFS and Listening Therapies (Safe and Sound Protocol and Rest and Restore Protocol) Combined Delivery Guidelines, published through Unyte in January 2026. Marcella is the founder and executive director of Kindful Body, which provides online therapy and nutrition counseling for eating and body concerns in California. She is also the co-founder of the IFS Consultation Collective, offering weekly consultation with IFS lead trainers. To learn more about combining IFS and Unyte's listening therapies: https://integratedlistening.com/resources/ifs-and-listening-therapies/ Marcella's SSP & IFS groups: https://www.kindfulbody.com/somatic-ifs-and-ssp-group/ Sign up for Marcella's newsletter to find out about upcoming offerings Kindful Body on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kindfulbody/ Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Therapy Training Boston. Therapy Training Boston offers live, in-person, and online workshops, plus consultation for therapists and other helping professionals, designed to support you as a whole person while satisfying your CE requirements. All of their offerings are taught with an eye toward context, power, and relational justice, and draw on the family systems theories and best practices that shaped the IFS model. They also offer an Intensive Certificate Program in Couples and Family Therapy to help you build confidence and capacity in community. About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do. Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more. Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store. Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube. Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach. Resources New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away. Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.
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    41 mins
  • The Courage to Start with the Ending - with Keith Miller and Courtney Corona

    The Courage to Start with the Ending - with Keith Miller and Courtney Corona
    Feb 13 2026

    On today's episode I chat with Keith and Courtney, cohosts of the podcast Tripping Over Love. Keith is licensed therapist and a Level 3 IFS Consultant, and Courtney is journalist and podcaster. They joined me to share their beautiful, messy love story.

    We dive into the courage it takes to start over, the "trauma" of the dating apps, and how they've used Internal Family Systems (IFS) and psychedelics to navigate the "breakups, breakdowns, and breakthroughs" of their relationship .

    We discuss:

    • Starting relationships with truth instead of performance.

    • Radical transparency — "starting with the ending" — as a foundation for trust.

    • Why telling the truth early can save a relationship later.

    • Loving someone while still grieving a past life.

    • Speaking for parts instead of from them in moments of conflict.

    • Finding the courage to try again after loss and heartbreak.

    • Dating is messy: Getting honest about the "thrift store shopping" energy of dating apps.

    • The difference between loving someone and being "in love."

    • IFS as "four-wheel drive": Turning toward the model when relationships get stuck.

    • How psychedelic-assisted journeys helped unlock grief — and create space to love again.

    Extended Interview

    At the end of our chat, I asked them each for one piece of advice for couples. This extended interviews is available for paid subscribers over on The One Inside Substack.

    Connect with Keith and Courtney:

    • Podcast: Tripping Over Love

    • Substack

    About The One Inside

    I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.

    • Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more.

    • Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store.

    • Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube.

    • Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger.

    I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach.

    Resources

    • New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start.

    • Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away.

    Sponsorship

    Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

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    50 mins
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