Have you ever felt frustrated because a change in your life is happening more slowly than you think it should?

I've worked with countless women, and have gone through it myself, where we're making progress, but our minds tell us it's not enough or not fast enough.

Then, we wind up frustrated and quit, or we end up in a cycle of overwhelm and burnout. Many of the women I work with even end up taking stress leave from their jobs.

The reason: we hold ourselves to unrealistic standards.

How many times have you experienced a full weekend and thought you should be ready to bounce back on Monday morning? Needed a vacation from your vacation? Or starting to come down with a cold, only to end up sicker for way longer than usual?

In this episode, I dive into why we expect our bodies to bounce back in a week when it took years to get to a point of exhaustion. You'll learn about what can help — like setting clear boundaries, normalizing rest, and no longer sacrificing your time for your employer's problems.

You'll also hear about how my own healing from burnout took far longer than I expected, plus the crucial mindset shift that helped me rebuild my life with good habits.

Listen, we're not productivity machines — we're human beings. Today, I invite you to explore how we can swap self-criticism for self-compassion, prioritize our well-being, and adjust our expectations to create real, lasting healing.

Key Takeaways:

• Why we need to be patient with progress. Change often happens more slowly than we expect.

• Just because our brains can make a quick decision doesn't mean our bodies have caught up yet.

• How sneaky, unrealistic expectations can fuel burnout — often leaving us feeling more tired after a break than before.

• Suggestions for setting clear boundaries and protecting your time and energy.

• Specific, helpful thoughts to adopt, such as "it takes as long as it takes to feel better."

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction: The Struggle with Slow Progress

02:42 The Impact of Unrealistic Expectations

05:04 The Harmful Cycle of Overwork

06:39 Setting Boundaries and Normalizing Rest

08:34 The Guilt of Taking Time Off

10:46 Understanding the Need for Extended Recovery

15:42 Creating a Supportive Mindset for Healing

20:48 Conclusion: Adjusting Expectations for a Healthier Life

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I know how overwhelming and difficult life can seem when we jump back into our routines and schedules after the holidays.

We often think of vacations as the only true rest, but what if we could make our everyday lives feel easier?

I believe we are often making our own lives harder than they need to be. In this episode, I share my three-step plan for creating a simpler life. Effectively, it's the "anti-overwhelm formula.

What you'll hear about today:

• How to challenge the belief that everything you do is important — our day-to-day lives are not an emergency room situation.

• Strategies to identify and let go of at least one thing that's draining you.

• Why complaining about recurring problems doesn't help — instead, they need to go to the top of our to-do lists — saving stress and struggle in the future.

• Simple ideas to help you automate parts of your routine.

• Why investing just a little time in planning can help you avoid struggle later.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction: Overcoming Life's Overwhelm

02:12 How the Illusion of Importance Creates Overwhelm

06:50 Addressing Recurring Stressors

14:50 Making Life Easier: Practical Tips

20:46 Conclusion: Proactive Living

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If you're like me, you might have let go of them within a day and a half! This time, my goal is more manageable: to create small, consistent habits.

Did you know that almost half of what we do every day is out of habit? This is good news, because if we can turn the changes we want to make into regular habits we don't need to think about, we can more easily reach our goals.

In this week's episode, I dive into the psychology of why we quit—our brain feels deprived when we focus on taking things away.

Instead, I propose a helpful mindset shift: instead of focusing on sacrifice, let's focus on adding in enjoyable things that support our goals. For example, adding 20 minutes of reading before bed or a morning breathing break to de-stress feels enjoyable and can help us reach our goal of reducing stress.

We also talk about the importance of becoming the person who already has the goal. What would a person with a great marriage or a fit person do? Start making decisions based on that persona.

And importantly, if you "fall off the wagon," I explain why you haven't failed—it's only a chance to adjust and reset. Don't quit, keep learning and going until you achieve your goal!

Discover:

• Why most New Year's resolutions fail and how to be in the successful 10% of those who reach their goals.

• The key mindset shift from "taking away" (deprivation) to "adding in" (abundance) to make positive changes stick.

• Practical examples of habits you can add to boost energy, increase mood, and reduce stress.

• How to use the "Future Self" method to help you make better decisions in the moment.

• The power of consistency, even in small increments like 10 minutes a day.

• A non-judgmental approach to "falling off the wagon" and why you should always reset instead of quitting.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction and New Year's Resolutions Check-In

01:28 The Power of Positive Habits

04:29 Adding Instead of Subtracting

08:33 Visualizing Success

10:44 Consistency and Making Adjustments

16:15 Overcoming Setbacks

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