In Episode #6, Nelson discusses how your attachment style may be impacting your grief.


Topics in this Episode

• You have an attachment style (0:36)
• It may amplify your grief intensity (1:35)
• Bowlby's "Attachment Theory" (2:07)
• The evolution of Attachment Theory (2:45)
• Anxious-preoccupied attachment (3:46)
• How might an anxious-preoccupied attachment affect your grief? (5:38)
• Fearful-avoidant attachment (6:22)
• How might an fearful-avoidant attachment affect your grief? (7:35)
• What research says (9:07)

Resources

Book: Attachment and Loss: Volume 1 (Bowlby, 1969)
Theory: Comparative View of Attachment Aspects (Ainsworth, 1978)
Theory: Hazan & Shaver (1987)
Theory: Bartholomew & Horowitz (1991)
Study: The Role of Attachment Style in Response to Pet Loss
Study: Relations of Attachment Styles and Current Feelings of Grief
Study: Attachment Theory to Examine Pets as Social Support
Counseling: Companion Animal Loss Therapy (virtual)
Workshops: Grief Therapy in a Box
Events: Homage Retreat


Memorable Quotes

• "Celebrate your ability to trust and love...as you have."

Next Episode: Are the 5 Stages a Myth?


Keywords

#pet loss #companion animal loss #pets #companion animals #family #dogs #cats #horses #attachment style


Biography

Nelson Pahl is an experiential psychologist and leading expert on companion animal loss. He hosts The Pahl Paw Patch podcast and is author of No Time to Grieve: The Disenfranchising of Pet Loss. He maintains a private practice in KCMO and hosts online healing workshops entitled Grief Therapy in a Box, as well as luxury healing retreats called "Homage Retreats."

In Episode #5, Nelson discusses three prevalent myths surrounding pet loss.


Topics in this Episode

• Who is anyone to sit in judgement of your pet loss? (0:43)
• Are you weak for grieving your companion animal? (1:22)
• Who experiences intense pet loss (1:29)
• Three celebrities that have suffered intense pet loss (2:06)
• Grieving the loss of a dear family member is healthy and normal (3:49)
• Pet loss is every bit as intense as human death-grief (4:11)
• Have you been grieving too long? (6:12)
• To rush the healing process is to disrespect the healing process (7:20)

Resources

Podcast: "The Toxicity of Judgment" | Abdi Assadi
Video: Joe Rogan & Kevin Smith Get Emotional Discussing Pet Loss
Video: Joe Rogan Gets Emotional Talking About His Dogs
Video: Tim Tebow Saying Goodbye to Beloved Bronco
Study: Death of Companion Cat or Dog Bereavement...
Study: Adjustment to the Death of a Companion Animal
Book: The Loss of a Pet - the Human-Animal Bond
Pet Loss Counseling, Workshops, and Retreats: Nelson Pahl

Memorable Quotes

• "Grief...if the price of love."

Next Episode: Does Your Attachment Style Impact Your Grief Severity?


Keywords

#pet loss #companion animal loss #pets #companion animals #family #dogs #cats #horses


Biography

Nelson Pahl is an experiential psychologist and leading expert on companion animal loss. He hosts The Pahl Paw Patch podcast and is author of No Time to Grieve: The Disenfranchising of Pet Loss. He maintains a private practice in KCMO and hosts online healing workshops entitled Grief Therapy in a Box, as well as luxury healing retreats called "Homage Retreats."

In this episode, Nelson discusses five reasons pet loss can be so intense.


Topics in this Episode

• Grief is the byproduct of love (1:06)
• The love you share with your pet is unconditional (1:24)
• We grieve when we lose our identity (2:23)
• With the death of a love one comes the loss a certain role (2:26)
• We grieve when we feel unsafe (4:31)
• We experience grief when we surrender our autonomy (6:29)
• With loss, we feel that certain dreams have gone unrealized (7:56)

Resources

Study: Changing Times, Changing Identities: Grieving for a Lost Self
Study: "I Am Not Who I Thought I Was"
Pet Loss Counseling, Workshops, and Retreats: Nelson Pahl

Memorable Quotes

• "Grief...if the price of love."

Next Episode: 3 Myths About Pet Loss


Keywords

#pet loss #companion animal loss #pets #companion animals #family #dogs #cats #horses


Biography

Nelson Pahl is an experiential psychologist and leading expert on companion animal loss. He hosts The Pahl Paw Patch podcast and is author of No Time to Grieve: The Disenfranchising of Pet Loss. He maintains a private practice in KCMO and hosts online healing workshops entitled Grief Therapy in a Box, as well as luxury healing retreats called "Homage Retreats."