Reed Beeley is a clinician working at the intersection of mental health, addiction, and ADHD, and what he's seeing points to something much bigger than individual diagnosis. It's a systemic gap in how ADHD is understood, identified, and treated in women. In this conversation, we unpack why ADHD is so often missed, starting with diagnostic criteria built around how symptoms present in boys, not girls. Reed explains how cultural expectations and gender stereotypes delay diagnosis or prevent it altogether, leaving many women mislabeled as anxious, emotional, or burned out. We also get into how ADHD is frequently misdiagnosed as bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder, and why those misdiagnoses don't just miss the mark; they can lead to the wrong treatments and deeper cycles of shame.

At its core, ADHD isn't just about focus; it's about dopamine regulation, emotional processing, and how the brain responds to reward and stress. We explore the connection between ADHD, addiction, trauma, and hormones, including how estrogen fluctuations can directly impact symptoms and cravings. And at the center of it all is disempowerment: women being taught to question themselves, minimize their symptoms, or push through. As Reed makes clear, that disconnect isn't just emotional; it can become a real barrier to getting the care that could actually change everything.

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Parul Somani was 31 years old, newly postpartum, and had just brought her baby home from the NICU… when she was diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer. What followed wasn't just a fight for her life; it was a complete unraveling of everything she thought she knew about control, success, and certainty. Because like so many women, Parul had done everything "right", the degrees, the career, the plan. And still, her body told a different story. In this conversation, we talk about what happens when the healthcare system dismisses your instincts, why self-advocacy can be the difference between life and death, and how women are conditioned to question themselves, even when something feels deeply wrong. We also explore the emotional toll of a diagnosis, the power of reclaiming agency in moments of uncertainty, and how Parul transformed one of the hardest chapters of her life into a framework for decision-making, resilience, and meaning. Because this isn't just a story about cancer, it's a story about listening to your body and what it costs when no one else does.

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The Path of Least Regret (Forbes Books, March 2026) is available on Amazon and other major booksellers

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For millions of women, what we’ve been told is anxiety, depression, or just “getting older”… is actually something else entirely. Today, we’re talking about menopause, not just as a biological transition, but as a mental health crisis hiding in plain sight.

Mandi Dixon is a therapist who began noticing a pattern: women walking into her office saying, “I don’t feel like myself,” after being dismissed by doctors and handed diagnoses that didn’t quite fit. And what she discovered changed everything, not just for her clients, but for herself. In this conversation, we unpack how hormonal changes during perimenopause and menopause impact mood, anxiety, identity, and why so many women are misdiagnosed, dismissed, or left to suffer in silence. We talk about the dangerous gap in medical education, the real mental health consequences of that gap, and what it means to finally feel seen, validated, and understood in your own body. Because this isn’t just about hormones. It’s about the cost of not believing women and what happens when we finally start to listen.

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To learn more about Anushay Hossain's work, check out Anushay's website or sign up for her Substack, where she writes about women's health, politics, and power. To continue the conversation, feel free to DM @anushayhossain or email me at thepaingap@gmail.com