In this episode of The Phoenix Project, Joycee Reynolds shares her story of surviving childhood abuse and the lifelong patterns it created—patterns she didn’t even realize she was living inside of.

For years, what felt like love was actually familiarity… wired into her nervous system from a childhood marked by fear, unpredictability, and silence.

She opens up about:

• Growing up in an environment where safety didn’t exist
• How trauma shaped her identity, self-worth, and relationships
• Why she repeatedly found herself in abusive dynamics
• The moment everything finally clicked—and she saw the pattern clearly
• What healing actually looks like (and why it’s not what people think)

This conversation isn’t just about trauma—it’s about awareness.

Because once you see the pattern… you can’t unsee it.

And that’s where everything begins to change.

If you’ve ever confused love with fear, ignored your intuition, or stayed in something that didn’t feel right—this episode will speak directly to you.

You are not broken. You were conditioned to survive.

In this episode, Christine Dillard shares her journey through coercive control, the health and emotional toll of staying, and how telling the truth and writing her book helped her reclaim her identity.

Listeners will hear practical signs of abuse, the hard work of truth-telling and healing, and a message of community, hope, and resources for anyone feeling trapped or unsure about leaving.

Who are you after trauma?

When your life has been shaped by survival, coercion, or exploitation… reconnecting with your identity can feel overwhelming—and sometimes impossible.

In this episode of The Phoenix Project, Jennifer Chandler is joined by licensed marriage and family therapist, clinical sexologist, and AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor, Wendy Haggerty.

Together, they explore what it really means to rebuild your sense of self after trauma.

This conversation dives into:

• How trauma and exploitation impact identity
• Performance-based survival vs. authentic self
• Shame, grief, and disconnection
• Reclaiming your voice, boundaries, and body
• Healing your relationship with sexuality
• Learning to say no—and mean it
• Moving from survival into true self-connection

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from who you are… this episode will help put language to what you’ve been feeling—and remind you that you are not broken.

You are still there.

And you can come back to yourself.

This is The Phoenix Project—where we are turning pain into purpose, one step at a time.

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