In this episode, Janice and guest Maria Cheung (somatic pleasure coach and clinical sexologist) talk about generational trauma and how patterns created in our parents' time—like conflict avoidance, self-criticism, hyper-independence, etc—get passed down to us and our other relationships.

They discuss how those patterns can be birthed by historical and cultural factors—like family separation, men being allowed to have multiple wives, and the one-child policy China—and how ongoing systems like capitalism and patriarchy continue to influence the ways we show up in our intimate relationships.

And they share what has helped them gain more compassion for their parents—including in safe spaces in individual and group therapy—while gaining more awareness/accountability and compassion for themselves.

This episode is full of personal stories about infidelity, challenging mom–daughter dynamics, repairing relationships and forgiveness, and the light-bulb moments and deep work that help to break the cycles of generational trauma.

Bio: Maria Cheung (she/her) is a queer, polyamorous Chinese-Canadian, somatic pleasure coach, facilitator and speaker. She is a registered Somatic Sexologist (American Board Certified) and Tibetan Tantra practitioner, with over 15 years of experience in the healthcare industry, graduating from the only government accredited Authentic Tantra school in the world. Combining methods from Western and Eastern medicine, Maria guides her clients and audiences through proven embodiment practices in pleasure science, spiritual science and sexual yoga (Tibetan 5 Element Tantra). As a compassionate guide in mind, body, spirit and sex, she shepherds uncolonized holistic trauma-informed and psycho-somatic methods, integrating healing, growth and mastery in the bedroom, into your life and into communities for collective liberation.

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• Instagram: @sageandsexual
• Website: https://www.sageholistichealing.com/

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In this episode, Janice and guest Andrea discuss shame and shaming in social justice movements and spaces, including:

• Common ways that shame shows up in our activism work
• Is shaming ever okay? Is it effective in moving people toward action?
• How do we react or cope when we are steeped in shame?
• How is shaming politicians/institutions different from shaming people?
• How can we take care in not shaming others in a way that hurts the movement?

This conversation is not meant to be prescriptive. Rather, it is meant to open up a not-often-discussed topic in our social justice spaces and think through its nuanced layers.

Bio: Andrea (she/they) is a poet and writer from Toronto who has performed with various organizations, including Unity Charity, JAYU and Lakeshore Arts. This statement does not encompass all they are but her love of the arts always propels her towards self expression, liberation and using the written word to connect with others and the world.

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• Instagram: @ahn.dre.ah

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This episode is all about anger! How many of us come to fear, and then disown, this core emotion. And the ways we adapt to our uneasy relationship with anger, including avoiding conflict, people-pleasing, and passive-aggressiveness.

Janice talks about her own experiences repressing her anger for many years, and why she had come to see anger as a threatening emotion that had to be sent to the corner of her internal home.

She shares about the therapy work (Internal Family Systems Therapy) she did to befriend her anger, and how it helped her to better clarify her needs and set boundaries.

She also discusses the importance of looking past the individual/family situation to understand how our broader cultural, social and political environment influences how comfortable we feel with our anger and that of others.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• The Soul's Work Blog: "Letting Anger Come Out of the Corner"
• Dr. Jennifer Mullan: @decolonizingtherapy (IG) / Decolonizing Therapy
• Jordan Pickell: @jordanpickellcounselling
• Susan McConnell: Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy
• Laurence Heller & Aline LaPierre: Healing Developmental Trauma
• Prentis Hemphill: What It Takes To Heal (my apologies, I called Prentis' book "How to Heal" in the episode!)
• Arturo Biaocchi (societypages.org): "The racialization of mental illness"

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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.