You wrote the plan down. You even put it on your phone. By 10 a.m. you’d started four things and finished none — and that same old voice was asking what’s wrong with you. If that’s familiar, this one’s for you.

In Episode 39, Greg and Rich have an honest, personal conversation about adult ADHD:

what it actually is, why it’s so easily missed, and what real support looks like.

ADHD isn’t the kid who can’t sit still, and it doesn’t disappear at eighteen.

It’s a difference in how the brain manages attention, impulse, and follow-through — and for many adults it’s been there all along, just unrecognized.

Both hosts share their own late-diagnosis stories and land where the show always does with hope.

What we cover:

• Why adult ADHD looks like internal restlessness and exhaustion, not hyperactivity
• Why more than half of adults with ADHD aren’t diagnosed until adulthood — and why women are so often missed
• Why “lazy” is almost always the wrong word (Rich’s duck-on-the-water metaphor)
• Treatment that actually helps — medication, therapy, lifestyle, structure, community
• The reframe: your brain isn’t working against you on purpose

Chapters:

• (00:00) Introduction & what adult ADHD really is
• (03:00) By the numbers: who’s been missed
• (04:18) Ferrari engine, bicycle brakes
• (05:24) Why “lazy” gets it wrong: the duck on the water
• (07:04) Childhood vs. adult ADHD & late diagnosis
• (11:10) Symptoms: hyperfocus and 500 browser tabs
• (14:11) Getting diagnosed as an adult
• (15:54) Is ADHD real? Treatment options
• (18:41) Rich & Greg’s stories + what’s on your heart
• (24:04) Summary, challenge & closing

This episode featured Greg Shaw and Rich.

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Books:

• Driven to Distraction — Edward Hallowell & John Ratey
• ADHD 2.0 — Edward Hallowell & John Ratey
• Taking Charge of Adult ADHD — Russell Barkley

Organizations:

• CHADD (Children and Adults with ADHD)
• ADDitude Magazine

Talks:

• “Failing at Normal” — Jessica McCabe (How to ADHD)
• “Recognizing ADHD in Adults” — Dr. Heather Brannon

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It’s late, you’re scrolling, and there’s a low hum under everything — the headlines, the economy, the things you can’t fix. You’re not upset about one thing; you’re just heavy, tired, and small. Episode 38 is about that feeling, and about finding where your power actually lives.

Greg, Rich, Derek, and Sarah define agency (the felt belief that what you do shapes what happens next), name the difference between agency and controlling everything, and talk honestly about reclaiming the small, controllable corners of a life — because the brain that can learn helplessness can also learn controllability.

In this episode:

• Why “nothing I do matters” is so common right now — and what it actually is

• The science: an internal sense of control, less depression and anxiety

• Why “control” isn’t a dirty word — a noun and a verb

• Where agency really lives: body, attention, time, relationships, the next small action

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

02:00 Defining agency & locus of control

03:30 The numbers & the science

07:00 Roundtable: staying grounded

12:23 Is “control” a dirty word?

17:58 Common questions

41:20 Free-form sharing

44:42 What’s on your heart

47:32 Closing & weekly challenge

50:04 Support groups & resources

This episode featured Greg with Rich, Derek, and Sarah.

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Welcome back to the Support and Kindness Podcast, I'm your host, Greg Shaw, and I just wanted to let you know that we're not going to actually air a podcast this week. We've got some people who are sick this week, some people who are on vacation, and some people are just playing hooky.

Rich and I did record an episode for you, but unfortunately, yours truly had the audio settings wrong, and the audio just did not turn out, and I didn't want to bring it to you with all distortion and everything else like that.

You deserve better than that. So, take a break this week. Put your feet up and rest. But I did want to let you know about some really exciting things which are coming your way. The next podcast that we're doing is episode 38, and it's what you can actually control. We're going to talk about things that are within your control and things that are not within your control, what you can control, what you can't.

So that's something to look forward to. We're looking forward to that. And then after that, the next week is going to be adult ADHD, what you need to know. And followed by that, we're going to talk about kindness at work or kindness with a theme of work, and how much is kindness actually worth, and we'll spell out the cost of being kind at work and not being kind at work.

How much does it cost businesses in turnover, retention, and all of that good stuff. So we've got some really cool stuff coming your way. So, take it easy this week and be kind to somebody, and we'll see you soon on the Support and Kindness podcast. Have a great week.