25. stop forcing, start softening

When you're a high achiever, pushing, forcing, and producing are prevalent. You've lost touch with intuition, receptivity, and flow. There's a harsh edge to how you're moving through the world. And underneath it, there's a part of you aching to soften. In this episode, I share three messages: let go of control and trust the unfolding, soften and allow yourself to be instead of constantly do, and your drive is taking over everything - you can choose both. You don't have to choose between being successful and being soft.

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Full Notes: Today's episode is about when you're disconnected from your feminine energy. If you're a high achiever – especially in a demanding career – there's a good chance this is you.

Here's what's happened: You've lost touch with intuition. With receptivity. With flow. Everything has become producing. Pushing. Pulling. Directing. Doing. You're in constant action mode. Constant force. You're making things happen through sheer will and determination.

You're good at it. You're successful at it. But there's a harsh edge to how you're moving through life. And underneath all that force, there's a part of you that's aching to soften. There's an intuitive lens that's wanting to be seen through. A gentler way of being that's waiting to emerge.

What's happened is you've become so reliant on your masculine energy – the doing, the achieving, the forcing – that your feminine energy has gone quiet. And feminine energy is about intuition, receptivity, flow, being instead of constantly doing, allowing instead of forcing, softness instead of that harsh edge you've been carrying.

I received three messages for you. Here's what came through.

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IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR:

• 00:00 Introduction to The Unraveling Achiever
• 00:46 When You're Disconnected from Your Feminine Energy
• 03:00 Message One: Let Go of Control and Trust the Unfolding
• 06:32 Message Two: Soften – Allow Yourself to Be, Not Just Do
• 11:07 Message Three: Your Drive Is Taking Over – You Can Choose Both
• 15:20 Bringing It All Together
• 17:45 Soul Reading

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THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:

• Everything feels like pushing and forcing
• You've lost touch with your intuition
• You can't seem to rest or receive
• There's a harsh edge to how you move through the world
• You're exhausted from controlling everything
• You've forgotten what flow feels like
• Even when you try to soften, your drive takes over
• You want to be ambitious AND soft
• You're ready to experience life differently

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RESOURCES MENTIONED:

No external resources mentioned in this episode.

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READY TO GO DEEPER?

If what you heard today resonated, I'd love to support you in going deeper.

Soul Reading is a 75-minute one-on-one session where I open your Akashic Records and help you reconnect with what your soul already knows about your path, your purpose, and what's next.

Learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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• Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Career Revival⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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ABOUT THE PODCAST:

The Unraveling Achiever is for the person who's done everything "right" and is questioning what that even means. Host Angela McKay - former SVP of HR turned intuitive career coach and soul reading practitioner - helps accomplished folks stop defaulting to what looks good and start building what feels true. You don't have to turn your life upside down. Just point your achiever energy toward a soul-led career and life you'll love.

24. when your career is built on proving yourself

When your career is built on proving yourself, you're chasing external validation, addicted to achievement, and your worth is tied to your performance and productivity. You need the recognition, the praise, people to see how good you are. Because without that external validation, you're not sure you're enough. In this episode, I share three messages: how to know you're trying to prove yourself, what that's causing, and a step to take. Your career can be built on authenticity, not proving.

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Full Notes: Today's episode is about when your career is built on proving yourself. If that phrase landed for you - if you felt something shift or tighten when you heard it - this episode is for you.

Here's what a career built on proving yourself looks like: You're chasing external validation. You're addicted to achievement. Your worth is tied to your performance and productivity. You need the recognition. You need the praise. You need people to see how good you are, how hard you work, how much you accomplish. Because without that external validation, you're not sure you're enough.

And so you keep pushing. You keep performing. You keep achieving. Not because the work lights you up. Not because it's deeply fulfilling. But because you're trying to prove that you're qualified, that you're valuable, that you deserve to be here.

And it's exhausting. Because no matter how much you achieve, it's never quite enough. There's always something coming up short. There's always a way you could have done it better. There's always someone who might find out that you're not as good as they think you are.

I received three messages for you. Here's what came through.

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IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR:

• 00:00 Introduction to The Unraveling Achiever
• 00:46 When Your Career Is Built on Proving Yourself
• 02:35 Message One: How to Know You're Trying to Prove Yourself
• 04:57 Message Two: What Trying to Prove Yourself Is Causing
• 07:29 Message Three: A Step You Can Take - Shift to What Lights You Up
• 10:41 Bringing It All Together
• 12:27 Soul Reading

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THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:

• You're chasing external validation
• Your worth is tied to your performance and productivity
• You need constant recognition and praise
• You're your harshest critic
• You fear being found out as unqualified
• The work doesn't bring you joy
• You're obsessed with being recognized
• You do work to be admired, not fulfilled
• You're exhausted from constantly proving yourself

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RESOURCES MENTIONED:

No external resources mentioned in this episode.

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READY TO GO DEEPER?

If what you heard today resonated, I'd love to support you in going deeper.

Soul Reading is a 75-minute one-on-one session where I open your Akashic Records and help you reconnect with what your soul already knows about your path, your purpose, and what's next.

Learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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LET'S STAY CONNECTED:

• Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@angelamckayllc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Angela McKay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Career Revival⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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ABOUT THE PODCAST:

The Unraveling Achiever is for the person who's done everything "right" and is questioning what that even means. Host Angela McKay - former SVP of HR turned intuitive career coach and soul reading practitioner - helps accomplished folks stop defaulting to what looks good and start building what feels true. You don't have to turn your life upside down. Just point your achiever energy toward a soul-led career and life you'll love.

23. if you've been in a mood lately

If you've been feeling impatient, easy to agitate, irritated, resentful, weighed down – this episode is for you. You've noticed an uptick in these feelings. It doesn't feel like you. You don't want to be this way, but you're having a hard time not being that way. In this episode, I share three messages: you're trying to do too much (there's a sneaky attachment to proving your worth through busyness – put something down), take care of your whole self including medical care (talk to your doctor about hormones, perimenopause, menopause, and address the basics), and your moodiness is affecting your relationships (put yourself on the receiving end of your sharp words to see the impact). Moodiness is a signal that something is off, something is too much, something needs to shift.

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Full Notes: Today's episode is for you if you've been in a mood lately. I'm not talking about one bad day. I'm talking about noticing that you've been feeling impatient, easy to agitate, irritated, resentful, weighed down, snappy, short. These aren't the only things you're feeling, but you've noticed an uptick. And it's starting to feel concerning.

It doesn't feel like you. You don't want to be this way. You don't like how it feels to be irritated all the time or to snap at people you care about. But you're also having a hard time not being that way. It's like you can't quite pull yourself out of it.

You need some help sorting the root of this and finding a way out of it. Because moodiness isn't just moodiness. It's a signal. It's your system telling you that something is off, something is too much, something needs to shift.

I received three messages for you. Here's what came through.

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IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL HEAR:

• 00:00 Introduction to The Unraveling Achiever
• 00:42 If You've Been in a Mood Lately: What's Underneath It
• 02:08 Message One: You're Trying to Do Too Much – Put Something Down
• 04:45 Message Two: Take Care of Your Whole Self – Including Medical Care
• 07:54 Message Three: Your Moodiness Is Affecting Your Relationships
• 11:05 Bringing It All Together
• 12:36 Soul Reading

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THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:

• You've been feeling impatient, irritable, resentful lately
• It doesn't feel like you
• You don't want to be this way but can't stop
• You're snapping at people you care about
• You feel weighed down
• You've normalized carrying too much
• You've been neglecting self-care and medical care
• You're worried about the impact on your relationships

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RESOURCES MENTIONED:

No external resources mentioned in this episode.

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READY TO GO DEEPER?

If what you heard today resonated, I'd love to support you in going deeper.

Soul Reading is a 75-minute one-on-one session where I open your Akashic Records and help you reconnect with what your soul already knows about your path, your purpose, and what's next.

Learn more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com/soul-reading⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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LET'S STAY CONNECTED:

• Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.angelamckayllc.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@angelamckayllc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Angela McKay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• Newsletter: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Career Revival⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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ABOUT THE PODCAST:

The Unraveling Achiever is for the person who's done everything "right" and is questioning what that even means. Host Angela McKay - former SVP of HR turned intuitive career coach and soul reading practitioner - helps accomplished folks stop defaulting to what looks good and start building what feels true. You don't have to turn your life upside down. Just point your achiever energy toward a soul-led career and life you'll love.