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This episode came from a voice note I left for a friend walking through a similar, but different, season in her marriage.

And what came through was this:

⚡️ Patience is action.

Not collapsed patience. Not abandoning yourself. But awake patience — the kind that watches, listens, gathers, and waits until the next right action has roots.

EXPLORE:

• Why patience can be a deeply active choice
• The difference between collapsed patience and awake patience
• How urgency can be the nervous system asking for relief
• Why the feminine path often moves in spirals, phases, and moonlight
• Why relationships are not linear agreements or business plans
• Why your partner cannot be your entire emotional ecosystem
• How to discern what is a phase, what is a pattern, and what is worth patiently waiting for

This is an episode for the woman in the in-between.

The woman who is watching.
The woman who is learning timing.
The woman who wants to move from truth, not panic.
The woman learning that sometimes patience is the move.

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I’m sharing from inside a deeply intimate season of marriage, repair, disruption, and truth-telling.

After twenty years together and eighteen years married, I recently held a closing ceremony to honor, grieve, and release the first chapter of our marriage... To give it dignity and close the loop before anything new could begin.

EXPLORE

• Why this season of marriage has felt like a spiral, not a straight line
• How social media relationship advice and even individual therapy can miss the full relational picture
• What a closing ceremony is, why it matters, and how it helps close the loop
• The difference between a ritual and a ceremony
• How I created a real-life closing ceremony
• What I included on the altar and why symbolism matters
• Inspiration from our ceremony to create your own version
• What you may need to honor, grieve, release, or bless before beginning again

This is an episode about discernment, closure, devotion, repair, and the sacred threshold between what was and what may become.

You do not have to burn it down to let it evolve.

You can honor it.
You can thank it.
You can grieve it.
You can close the loop.

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This episode is a tender one.

Walk with me in a deeply personal conversation about the wounds we may carry from our mothers — and how those wounds can quietly enter our adult relationships, especially marriage.

Through the lens of my own separation, motherhood, therapy, and long arc of repair with my mother, I explore how conditional love, abandonment, rejection, and emotional neglect shaped the way I received love, tested love, pushed love away, and ached to be chosen.

It's an episode about what happens when an old wound enters the room of a present relationship — and becomes mature enough to finally be named.

To the woman who has done “the healing work” and is shocked to find another layer rising in love, partnership, or marriage — this episode is for you.

Not healed. Healing.

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The Association for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Health

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BONUS

Below is an affirmation/dedication I created (which may serve as inspiration) for myself as a loving reminder of my devotion to heal these wounds with grace... and speediness 🤞😅

I release the intense feelings of rejection, abandonment, and conditional love. I see them. And I remember they are not the whole truth. They are separate from me, the person, or situation they may be rising in right now. I will pause and take time to tend to myself. To return to stability and truth. I will confide in the people I trust and care about, and let them know the wounds I'm actively healing. Co-regulation is supportive. I deserve loving support while I heal. I can hold myself with devotion as I return to what's real.

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🌐 website: BirthHumanity.com

📲 Instagram: @BirthHumanity

💬 You're invited to ask Elise what you'd like clarification on or learn more about. She'll do her best to address it in an upcoming episode.

If one thing rings true, follow that sound. Return the rest to the wind.

💗 Please follow, leave a review, and share this episode with someone you feel will resonate with it.

This podcast is not medical advice. It’s education, story, discernment, and conversation. You are the authority of your life, your body, and your children.