How often have you assumed you knew exactly why your partner did something, only to find out you were completely wrong?

In this episode of This Changes Everything, Sarah explores one of the biggest hidden relationship killers: the stories we tell ourselves. When our brains don’t have enough information, they fill in the blanks. Unfortunately, those stories often come from our fears, past experiences, attachment wounds, and cognitive biases instead of reality.

You’ll learn why your brain is wired to make assumptions, how cognitive distortions and confirmation bias can quietly sabotage your relationships, and why most couples aren’t arguing about what happened but what they believe it meant.

Sarah breaks down the psychology behind these patterns in a relatable way and shares practical tools you can start using today to separate facts from assumptions, communicate with curiosity instead of certainty, and build stronger, healthier relationships.

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “I know exactly why they did that,” this episode might completely change the way you communicate with the people you love.

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What happens after the honeymoon phase ends and real life takes over? In this episode of This Changes Everything, we’re talking about one of the biggest challenges every long-term relationship faces: how to stay connected, keep the romance alive, and continue choosing each other through all of life’s busy seasons.

Before we dive in, Sarah guides you through a relationship check-in to help you identify where you and your partner are right now. She'll help you identify what’s working, where you may feel disconnected, and what small shifts could move your relationship one step closer to where you want it to be.

We’ll talk about why couples slowly drift apart, how emotional connection gets lost in the chaos of everyday life, and why the strongest relationships aren’t the ones that never struggle, they’re the ones that know how to repair and reconnect.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why relationships don’t lose their spark overnight, but through small moments of disconnection
• How to stop becoming roommates and start becoming partners again
• The importance of curiosity, appreciation, and intentional time together
• Simple daily habits that strengthen emotional intimacy
• How to handle seasons where you feel distant from your partner
• Practical ways to rekindle romance, playfulness, and desire
• Why love isn’t something you find once, it’s something you continue building

Whether you’ve been together for six months or sixty years, this episode is a reminder that lasting love isn’t about keeping things exactly the way they were at the beginning. It’s about continuing to grow, stay curious, and find your way back to each other again and again.

Because the spark isn’t something you either have or don’t have.

It’s something you nurture.

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In this episode of This Changes Everything, we continue our deep dive into what it actually means to fight fair in relationships, moving beyond surface level conflict and into the emotional patterns that drive it. Building on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we explore how couples get caught in predictable cycles that make it feel like every argument is about “the dishes,” when underneath it is usually something much deeper like disconnection, fear, or the need for reassurance and safety.

We break down how attachment styles show up in real time conflict, why people either pursue or withdraw when they feel triggered, and how nervous system flooding can make even simple conversations feel impossible. Most importantly, we focus on what to do next, how to recognize the cycle earlier, how to interrupt escalation before it takes over, and how to stay emotionally connected even when you are activated.

This episode is less about perfect communication and more about practical repair, learning to notice your patterns in the moment, name what is happening underneath the fight, and return to connection faster after rupture. Because the goal is not never fighting, it is getting better at finding your way back to each other.

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