What happens when you stop chasing the life you were told to want and choose yourself instead?

In this episode of This Wasn’t the Plan, Tara sits down with Victoria for an honest, deeply validating conversation about being childfree by circumstance after infertility. After four years of trying to conceive, two rounds of IVF, and four miscarriages, Victoria and her husband made the conscious decision to stop trying - not because it hurt less, but because continuing came at too high a cost.

Together, they talk about the grief no one prepares you for, the pressure to keep going, and the strength it takes to walk away from a dream that once defined your future. This episode explores what it really means to choose yourself after infertility, how to navigate life without the timeline you imagined, and why being childfree by circumstance does not make your life smaller, less meaningful, or incomplete.

This conversation is for anyone experiencing infertility, IVF burnout, pregnancy loss, miscarriage grief, or redefining their identity and purpose after life takes an unexpected turn. It is also for women who are tired of being asked intrusive questions like “Do you have kids?” without space for the reality of what they have endured.

If you are learning how to rebuild, redefine your future, or trust yourself again after loss, this episode will remind you that your life still matters - and that choosing yourself is not giving up.

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Instagram: @victoriamahoney29

In this episode, I sit down with writer and creator of The Life Actually Company, Laura Behnke, for an honest conversation about releasing societal timelines and learning how to meet the life you never saw coming....multiple times.

Laura shares how her 30s unfolded in ways she never expected - from letting go of pressure around marriage and milestones, to meeting her now husband later than planned, to navigating unimaginable loss when both of their fathers were diagnosed with cancer and passed away in the same year.

We talk about fertility struggles, needing IVF due to a rare genetic disorder, the emotional toll of trying to conceive, and the curveballs that continued long after she thought the hardest part was over. Laura also opens up about what it was like to finally become a mother - and then face another life-altering diagnosis just months later.

This episode is not about overcoming for the sake of inspiration. It is about reality. About grief, uncertainty, resilience, and what it means to live a life that looks nothing like the one you imagined - and still find meaning inside it.

If you have ever felt behind, blindsided, or deeply exhausted by trying to control an uncontrollable life, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.

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Connect with Laura:

Instagram: @laurabehnke

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In this episode, Jessica Field opens up about navigating life’s unexpected turns - from moving across the continent and starting over, to facing infertility and multiple miscarriages. She shares how trusting herself, embracing change, and building resilience have shaped her journey. Tune in for an honest, empowering conversation about strength, resilience, and finding your path through life’s unplanned challenges.

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Instagram: @tararesnick

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Instagram: @yourspiritualwellnesscoach

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