Ever felt like you're too open to keep your mouth shut when you "should"? Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about oversharing, trauma dumping, and why some of us can't help but say the thing everyone else is thinking but won't say out loud.

We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want genuine connection while also being terrified you've just ruined everything by being… yourself.

This time we talked about:

• 🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): The vulnerability hangover, replaying conversations for days, and that sinking "why did I say that?" feeling

• 👀 What it looks like in real life: Sharing your divorce at book club, asking "too personal" questions, talking about periods/poo/bodies without shame, telling your dentist about that weird growth

• 🧠 Why our brains do it: Growing up with critical or emotionally unavailable parents, desperate attempts to be understood, trauma responses disguised as "no filter," and the generational shame around being a woman with a body

• 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: The difference between sharing for connection vs. sharing for validation, oversharing vs. over-explaining, being "brutally honest" vs. being unkind, and how AuDHD can play a role

• 🧰 Coping mechanisms: Withdrawing after being humiliated, only sharing with "safe" people, performing a version of yourself, or leaning into the "I just say what everyone's thinking" persona

• 🌱 How to make peace with it: Focus on finding safe people to share with instead of shaming yourself for sharing at all

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→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

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🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we're here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn't therapy, and it's not a substitute for professional support. We're here to share ideas and experiences, but if you're struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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Ever feel like your phone’s glued to your hand — even when you don’t want it to be? Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering doom-scrollers) talk about what happens when our phones stop being tools and start feeling like extensions of our nervous systems.

We unpack the hidden toll of being constantly connected — how endless scrolling, notifications, and comparison leave us overstimulated, distracted, and quietly drained. And we explore how to start using our devices with more intention, without guilt or shame.

This time we talked about:

• 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): checking your phone before your brain’s even awake, guilt about screen time, and the shame of “shouldn’t I know better?”

• 👀 What it looks like in real life: scrolling through five crises before breakfast, watching TV while doom-scrolling, and losing time to invisible noise.

• 🧠 Why our brains do it: dopamine, design, distraction, and the myth that productivity equals worth.

• 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: compulsive checking, fear of missing out, overstimulation, and avoiding silence.

• 🧰 Coping mechanisms: digital boundaries, intentional screen time, journalling, curiosity, and compassion for your scrolling self.

• 🌱 How to make peace with it: it’s not about quitting your phone — it’s about coming home to yourself, even online.

Thanks for listening

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💬 New episodes every Monday.

🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

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🎙️ Podcast socials:

→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently

→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently

→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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Ever felt like you’re too young to already be this old?
Like you should be further along, more settled, more adult… even though you know life hasn’t been simple or straightforward?
Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists with very different life paths) talk about feeling out of sync with the so-called “normal” timeline. Turning 40. Not feeling your age. Feeling both childlike and prematurely grown-up. And the quiet heaviness that comes from comparing your life to what you thought it was meant to look like.

We explore how early responsibility, trauma, class, neurodivergence and changing cultural milestones shape how old we feel inside — and why so many people feel “behind” even when they’re doing their best.

This time we talked about:
🎙️ We’ve felt this too (and we still do): feeling behind in life, age anxiety, not feeling your age, the emotional weight of turning 40

👀 What it looks like in real life: comparing yourself to peers, scrolling Facebook and spiralling, reacting strongly to milestones like marriage, children and home ownership, feeling young and old at the same time

🧠 Why this feeling exists: early adulthood responsibility, delayed or disrupted development, trauma, emotional regulation as generational wealth, executive functioning differences and the myth of a “level playing field”

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: becoming hyper-aware of what you’ve achieved, discounting what you’ve survived, feeling out of step whether you became a parent early or not at all

🧰 Patterns we notice: comparison spirals, minimising your own achievements, measuring your life against outdated or inherited expectations

🌱 How to make peace with it: recognising that being on a different timeline doesn’t mean you’re behind — it means your life unfolded differently

Thanks for listening
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💬 New episodes every Monday.
🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

🧡 CONNECT WITH US
🎙️ Podcast socials:
→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently
→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently
→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently
→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:
→ Website: www.carlyradford.com
→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:
→ Website: www.alicetew.com
→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: toomuchapparently@gmail.com
🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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