Have you ever said things like, “I’m just a people pleaser.” “I’m an overthinker.” “I’m bad at saying no.” “I’m an emotional eater. That’s just who I am.”

What if none of those are personality traits?

In this powerful episode of Glow & Flow Radio, Delicia gently pulls back the curtain on five behaviors many of us have claimed as part of our identity, and reframes them for what they really are: trauma responses and survival strategies developed to keep us safe.

We explore how experiences like childhood emotional neglect, chaotic homes, toxic relationships, being the strong one, or growing up with conditional love shape the nervous system. These adaptations do not disappear when the danger passes. Instead, they quietly become “who we are.”

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why people-pleasing often comes from fear, not kindness

• How hypervigilance and overthinking are signs of a nervous system stuck in threat mode

• Why emotional eating is a form of self-soothing, not a lack of discipline

• How overworking can be a way to avoid feeling and earn worth

• Why difficulty saying no is rooted in nervous system safety, not selfishness

You’ll also hear how each of these patterns connects to your relationship with food, your body, and rest, and why healing one begins to soften them all.

This episode is not about fixing yourself. It’s about understanding yourself with compassion. You are not broken. You are not too much. You are a survivor who developed incredibly intelligent strategies to get through difficult circumstances.

A free companion guide, “Am I Healing or Performing?”, is available to help you reflect on these patterns and begin healing them gently at https://shop.beacons.ai/glowandflowholistics/707f9e7f-3b12-49a8-bc6a-ffdc59154409.

If this episode hits you in the chest, you’re not alone. Share it with the friend who needs to hear that she is not a problem. She is healing. And so are you.

Until next time, keep glowing, keep flowing, and keep healing from the inside out.