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We start a new AA-focused chapter of Unbottled and get real about why “90 meetings in 90 days” keeps showing up in early sobriety. I share how daily meetings helped me survive the trigger-heavy first months, build a routine, and stay sober one day at a time for 38 years.
• why I’m shifting into AA-focused episodes and what AA offers
• what “90 meetings in 90 days” actually is and why it’s a suggestion
• how early sobriety triggers work and why the first 90 days feel shaky
• using meetings to replace bar time and home-drinking time
• repetition as a way to build habits, routine, and stability
• familiar faces and real accountability that keeps you connected
• giving a meeting three tries before you decide it’s not for you
• permission to be imperfect, leave early, stay quiet, and still count it
• common resistance thoughts and how they keep people stuck
• trying different meetings and deciding based on experience
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Not everyone in our life will love the sober version of us, especially when our “no” forces other people to look at their own habits. We talk about why this pushback happens, how to set boundaries without a speech, and how to let go of relationships that only worked when we were drinking.
• why some people want the old version back
• how sobriety can feel like you become “the problem”
• the subtle ways pressure shows up at parties and events
• setting boundaries even when it feels uncomfortable
• reframing boundaries as protecting your peace
• simple phrases to shut down pushy questions
• outgrowing environments and relationships as part of growth
• finding support through AA, Al-Anon, and community
On my website, marcybackhusmedia.com. I have a link to Al Anon and I have a link to AA. If you're wondering, if you're seeking, if you are someone supporting someone, click those links, get yourself some help

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Sobriety doesn’t just change what we drink, it changes how people treat us and how we move through rooms that used to feel normal. We name the confusing reactions from friends and family, then share ways to set boundaries and protect our recovery without turning it into a fight.
• the three common “camps” loved ones fall into before we quit drinking
• why people stay silent or joke even when they’re worried
• how unintentional enabling can happen at home and in friendships
• what shifts fast once we’re sober and why it can unsettle others
• the remarks that sound small but can be triggering
• a simple reframe: most people don’t know how to help
• how we can clearly state boundaries so others can relax
• why AA open meetings can help families understand recovery
• why Al‑Anon matters when you love someone with alcohol addiction
• why relationships changing is clarity, not failure
If you're loving these conversations, I do have two other podcasts. You need to check them out. You can find everything, episodes, updates, and more on my website, MarcyBacchusmedia.com, Marcy with a Y, Backhus with a CK, Marcybackhusmedia.com, and obviously where everybody gets their podcasts.