Nobody talks about how healing can make you picky. Like… painfully picky.

Suddenly the things, people, and patterns you used to tolerate? They make your skin crawl. You can’t unsee the red flags. You can’t un-feel the discomfort. And what used to pass as "normal" now feels like an assault on your peace.

In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when you outgrow your old self — and how that growth can come with grief, disgust, and powerful clarity.

C’mon Paulette… can’t you just have one? No.

In this episode of Unbuzzed & Unbothered, I’m breaking down why moderation didn’t work for me...and why it doesn’t work for a lot of people.

We’re talking about why moderation sounds easy but becomes a mental tug-of-war, why quitting isn’t weakness, and why full-on sobriety has brought me more peace and freedom than “just one” ever did.

This is your reminder that you don’t have to explain or justify your decision to anyone. And if you’re wondering if moderation is keeping you stuck, you are not alone.

Healing isn’t just about feeling better. Sometimes, it’s about outgrowing people, places, habits, and even versions of yourself that you used to align with.

In this episode, I share the unexpected (and honestly hard) parts of healing: the loneliness, the identity shifts, and the messy process of figuring out where you fit now.

If you’re navigating this right now, you are so not alone.