In this episode of Up Past Bedtime, I am pulling apart one of the biggest lies sold to women in our 20s and 30s: the myth of having it all. We are told to be present mothers, have thriving careers, keep perfect homes, stay fit, look good, be emotionally regulated, have hobbies, make money and somehow do it all with a smile. I share the moment I realised I did not actually want it all and how releasing that pressure completely changed my life.
I talk about my own experiences with burnout, co-parenting, navigating ADHD and ASD, motherhood and healing, and why balance has never really existed in my world. I also unpack why the idea of “you can have it all, just not all at once” still keeps us stuck chasing an invisible checklist instead of choosing what genuinely matters to us.
If you have ever felt like you are dropping the ball or not measuring up, this episode will feel like a deep breath and a reminder that you are allowed to build a life that works for you, not for everyone else.
Up Past Bedtime with Bella Messina is your go-to for late-night, unfiltered chats—the kind of conversations you’d have with your closest girlfriends. From relationships to motherhood, no topic is off-limits as Bella, a 20-something mum of two, invites you into candid conversations with inspiring women and shares her own raw stories. This podcast is where you’ll feel seen, heard, and completely understood. So get comfortable, because the best conversations happen when you’re up past bedtime.
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