There are moments that stay with you, not because they were obvious, but because something about them didn’t sit right.

In this episode of the VEST Her Podcast, we explore those moments, the ones where you’ve given your time, energy, or ideas and walked away feeling like something was off, even if you couldn’t fully explain why.

In this conversation, we unpack:

• What extractive practices are and why they’re not always easy to recognize
• How they often show up disguised as opportunity, visibility, or collaboration
• Why so many of us question ourselves before fully understanding what’s happening

We explore how extractive dynamics don’t always look the way you’d expect. In many cases, something is being offered (access, inclusion, praise) which is exactly what makes it confusing. These gray areas can make it harder to trust your instincts in the moment.

We also expand beyond the workplace, because these patterns don’t exist in just one area. They show up across:

• Work and career growth
• Community spaces
• Personal relationships
• Broader systems and expectations

This episode is a guided conversation designed to help you recognize patterns you may not have had language for before and begin thinking differently about what you carry.

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Speed and visibility are often rewarded in the workplace, but they can also lead to costly mistakes, including leaving money on the table.

In this episode, we sit down with Jacqueline Twillie, author, leadership strategist, and founder of Bend AI, for a candid conversation on negotiation, decision-making, and high-stakes communication, especially for women who have been socialized to be “polite” instead of persistent. Moderated by VEST member Alison Anthony, President and CEO of Tulsa Area United Way, this discussion challenges conventional thinking and offers a more strategic approach to advocating for your value.

Together, they unpack the mindset traps that hold women back from asking for more and the real cost of not doing so. You’ll walk away with practical frameworks you can begin using immediately, whether in your career, business, or everyday conversations.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why preparation, not confidence, is the true driver of better decisions
• How to slow down fast-moving rooms and “set the temperature”
• Three common negotiation pitfalls: self-negotiation, worthiness spirals, and failing to follow up
• The FLOW framework for navigating difficult conversations
• The LATTE framework for preparing, communicating, and evaluating negotiations

A thoughtful, practical conversation on how small shifts in how you prepare and communicate can lead to meaningful financial and career outcomes.

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What if the fastest way to grow isn’t moving at all?

In this episode, we sit down with Tulsa International Airport CEO, Alexis Higgins, to unpack how a 26‑year journey in one city became a masterclass in influence, trust, and long‑term impact. From a support role to CEO, Alexis shows why deep roots can beat constant motion when you turn visibility, preparation, and relationships into compound career returns.

Alexis pulls back the curtain on airport life as a “city within a city." She breaks down how airlines choose new routes, why landing new airline routes take patience and precision, and more.

Inside the organization, we explore culture by design, setting goals where none existed, normalizing debate, and anchoring tough decisions on what’s best for the airport. Alexis shares practical leadership tools, “to be clear is to be kind,” practicing hard conversations, and creating transparent development paths so people are ready for opportunities before they officially exist. We also get candid about the job market, layoffs, and longer searches, offering concrete steps for visibility, high‑value networking, and asking for precise help.

We talk women in aviation, the power of hometown leadership, and more.

Alexis’s takeaways are both grounded and energizing, find work that gives you joy, volunteer to reset your mind, and keep your attention on what you can control when the world feels heavy. If you’re hungry for real talk on career strategy, route development, airport operations, mentorship, and culture change, this conversation delivers clear, actionable insight.

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