In this episode of Walking Defined, Kate and Baylee continue their marriage series by building on the foundation laid in Part 1 and introducing the next essential tools in the sanctified wife’s tool belt.

Following their conversation on respect, this episode turns toward confession, forgiveness, communication, and the posture of humility required to walk through marriage in a God-honoring way. Drawing again from insights found in Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, Kate and Baylee reflect on how misunderstanding communication styles, harboring criticism, and attempting to act as the Holy Spirit in our spouse’s life can quietly damage intimacy and trust.

Through personal stories, Scripture, and honest reflection, they unpack how marriage is not meant to serve personal happiness, but to sanctify both husband and wife, pointing ultimately to Christ. This conversation explores what it looks like to fight with your spouse instead of against them, why criticism feels like rejection to men, and how approaching marriage as service unto the Lord reframes everything.

This episode also speaks directly to wives who feel stuck in cycles of frustration, hurt, or disappointment, offering practical perspective shifts rooted in biblical truth rather than cultural expectations.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why confession and forgiveness are essential tools in the sanctified wife’s tool belt
• How criticism communicates disdain rather than correction
• Why trying to be the Holy Spirit to your husband is damaging to your marriage
• The difference between fighting your spouse and fighting the issue together
• How men and women experience conflict differently, and why understanding that matters
• Why marriage is meant to sanctify us, not serve our happiness
• How gratitude reshapes the way we see our spouse
• A word of encouragement for wives struggling with a critical spirit
• A closing prayer for renewed perspective, humility, and healing in marriage

Scripture referenced:

• Proverbs 12:4 – A virtuous wife as a crown, and the damage caused by shame
• 1 Corinthians 7:33–34 – The mutual concern husbands and wives have for one another
• Matthew 7:3–5 – Examining our own hearts before judging our spouse
• Proverbs 31 – Doing good to one’s husband all the days of her life

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In this episode of Walking Defined, Kate and Baylee begin a three-part conversation on marriage by tackling one foundational question:

What are the tools in the sanctified wife’s tool belt?

This conversation was sparked by reading Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, a book that gave language to something that is experienced but wasn't ever fully understood. Through that lens, Kate and Baylee explore why respect is not simply a preference or personality trait, but a God-designed language through which men experience love.

Together, they unpack how marriages often fall into a repeating cycle where wives feel unloved and husbands feel disrespected, and how that cycle quietly erodes connection, leadership, and intimacy over time. This episode lays biblical and practical groundwork for understanding roles within marriage, why submission is so often misunderstood, and how small shifts in language and posture can begin to change your marriage forever.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why respect is the language husbands are dying to hear
• How the “crazy cycle” forms when love and respect break down
• The cultural messages that train women to criticize rather than honor
• Why submission does not mean inferiority, silence, or weakness
• The biblical meaning of Ezer K’negdo and the true role of a wife
• How criticism and control slowly dismantle leadership in the home
• Why obedience unto the Lord matters even when change feels slow
• A word of encouragement for the wife who feels exhausted and at a breaking point
• A closing prayer for wives who are longing for healing, renewal, and clarity in their marriage

Scripture referenced:

• Ephesians 5:25–33 – God’s design for love and respect within marriage
• Genesis 2:18 – Ezer K’negdo and the strength-based design of the wife
• Genesis 3:16 – The impact of the Fall on roles, desire, and authority within marriage

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In this episode of Walking Defined, Kate and Baylee sit down with a special guest, Pastor Matt Cook (Baylee’s dad) for a raw, conviction-filled conversation that goes straight to the heart.

Pastor Matt shares the turning point that changed everything: a moment where God brought him to his knees, broke his pride, and began building a real, personal relationship with Him. From there, we talk about what it means to walk by faith when God opens and closes doors, why humility often comes through humiliation, and how submission to the Lord reshapes the way we lead, love, and live.

This conversation also lays important groundwork for what’s coming next, especially as we move into deeper conversations about marriage, leadership, and roles in the home.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Pastor Matt’s testimony and the moment God confronted his pride and redirected his life
• What it looks like to walk through doors God opens, and trust Him when they close
• Why true courage flows from submission to God
• Why men are increasingly fearful in modern culture, and what happens when purpose disappears
• God’s design for masculinity and femininity, and why the world’s confusion creates disorder
• A direct word to the wife who feels like she has been carrying the “shield” and how to begin restoring God’s order with repentance, forgiveness, and faith
• A closing prayer for the wife who wants change but feels held back by fear

Scripture referenced:

Genesis 3:16 – The impact of the Fall on relationships and the tension introduced into marriage

Ephesians 5:25–27 – Christ’s sacrificial love as the model for covenant leadership

Galatians 6:7 – The principle that what we sow spiritually will bear fruit

Matthew 24:4 – Jesus’ warning to guard against deception

Matthew 11:12 – The cost and seriousness of pursuing the Kingdom of God

2 Timothy 3:12 – The reality that godly living will face opposition

Psalm 119:105 – God’s Word as a lamp guiding each step forward

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