Show Notes:

In this episode we dive into the myths, barriers and boundary issues that get in the way of moving into, and fully enjoying retirement. For many working women, their careers are a source of pride and self-definition. Take a listen to this episode with Retirement Coach Elaine Belansky as we explore the question of "Who Am I?" once your career is in the rear view mirror, and Elaine provides tips and some free tools for making room for your next chapter to begin.

Elaine’s Website: https://elainebelansky.com

Blog: https://elainebelansky.com/blog

Retirement Vision Starter Kit: https://elainebelansky.com/free-retirement-starter-kit

Who Am I Now? Guide: https://elainebelansky.com/who-am-i-now

Boundary Builder: https://elainebelansky.com/boundary-builder

Ikigai: I describe this in one of my blog posts: https://elainebelansky.com/blog/retirement-clarity

Newsletter: https://elainebelansky.com/newsletter

https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/53913/33-activities-you-should-try-in-your-first-year-of-retirement-to-discover-what-truly-fulfills-you/

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Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

In our conversation with Amy Schiller, a social worker and professor who specializes in the field of death and dying, we start to unpack the myth of the “Good Death.” Amy talks about letting go of control in the dying process, and how becoming aware of our fears and beliefs about dying can impact our lives, and allow us to live more fully. Amy offers her students the opportunity to write Legacy Letters, and suggests everyone consider their own Advance Directives for when the end of life comes. Constance shares the many ways she is trying to practice and “rightsize” her own deep fears about death and dying, and Lori opens up to the possibility of an Afterlife.

And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where Lori and Constance unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard, and where we have started “Listener Shout-Outs,” and episode-based Challenges for our listeners.

SHOW NOTES:

The CHALLENGE for this episode is to complete one of the exercises discussed - a Legacy Letter, some Death Cleaning, a Death Meditation and let us know how it went :)

Find out more about Amy Schiller

Amy's Blog

Dying Well by Ira Byock

Rightsize your Fears by Mark Nepo

The Fifth Season, Mark Nepo

Death Meditation with Ajahn Nisabho

Going with Grace, Alua Arthur

Legacy Letter

Advice for Future Corpses Sallie Tisdale

Death Cleaning

The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and Your Family From a Lifetime of Clutter

Final Gifts by Maggie Callanan

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Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt

Just in time for VALENTINE'S DAY, Constance and Lori speak to Kandee Love, a licensed therapist specializing in couple’s and sex therapy. We explore topics ranging from sexual expression across the life stages to sex toys and tips for older adults. Kandee emphasizes the importance of prioritizing pleasure, passion, and play in a world filled with stress. Kandee has labeled February as “Spunky Old Broads Month,” and encourages women to re-write their old narratives and embrace boldness in the bed room. We discuss the idea of redefining sexuality beyond traditional penetrative sex, and the great importance of communication in a relationship, and we end with Kandee providing tips for enhancing sexual expression and intimacy in long-term relationships. This is an episode you don’t want to miss!

And don’t forget to hang around for our “After Thoughts” where we unpack the episode and chat about our thoughts on what we heard, and where we have started “Listener Shout-Outs,” and episode-based Challenges for our listeners.

SHOW NOTES

If you are interested in learning more about Kandee’s work, check out her website: https://www.kiscounseling.net.

Kandee’s Yes, No, Maybe List to try 😊 (WADY CHALLENGE – try using this and let us know!)

Spunky, Old Broad Month

LUBES TO LOVE:

Water-based products (safe with all toys and condoms): Good Clean Love Almost Naked, Sliquid, Aloe Cadabra, Astroglide, Uberlube

SILICON BASED (don’t use with silicone toys): Astroglide X, Wet Platinum, 10 Millennium, Uberlube

NATURAL (not condom safe): Organic coconut oil

TOYS TO TRY:

EASY TO GRIP: Palm power, Iroha Series (Yuki, Koharu), VM Wand vibrator

CLITORAL STIMULATORS: SILA Cruise, SONA Cruise, Namii Clitoral Suction Stimulator, Wominizer Premium Duo, Evii External Vibrator with Dual Motors Pulse Wand

G SPOT VIBRATORS: Kurve, GII G spot Vibrator, Je Joye Juno Flex

DATING WEBSITES FOR SENIORS: Seniorsizzle.com, DateMyAge, BeNaughty, OurTime, Tinder for seniors, Seniormatch, Kinky-seniors.com, Seniorfuckbuddies

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Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art. Eleanor Roosevelt