Episode 39 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't opens with Matthew spending 40 minutes trying to get the setup right — which Nancy has exactly zero patience for. From there they get into the real stuff: where do they want to retire? They used an astrocartography tool to narrow it down and landed on Portugal, Spain, Italy, Charleston, and Sarasota as their top five destinations to explore. Portugal is first up in September.

They also get into the MOVES method — a flexibility and mobility routine that's revealing just how inflexible two people in their 60s can be. The wedges are on the floor. The neighbor who paddleboards in a wetsuit in January is the goal. And Matthew is eyeing rowing while Nancy wants to get back to dance class. Meanwhile, the body isn't cooperating the way it used to, and they're both trying to figure out what that means going forward.

Also: Nancy told Matthew to pick one project. He narrowed it down to three. Progress.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Pick one project and master it — doing too many things at once means nothing gets done well
• Plan your retirement before someone else plans it for you — explore while you still can choose
• Use tools to explore, not decide — astrocartography gave them destinations, not answers
• Your future self is trying to tell you something — the flexibility work now is about tying your shoes at 80
• Know your strengths — Matthew's a Learner/Achiever; Nancy doesn't want to learn the tech, she wants it to work
• Find exercise you'll actually do — gym failed, yoga failed, tennis and dance might stick

Episode 38 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't opens outside on Mother's Day — with background noise, a sick Nancy, and a brand new used convertible Matthew has barely figured out how to drive. They're fresh back from four days in Miami with the grandkids, and little Millie in her sparkly dress and cowboy boots at story time may be the highlight of the episode.

But things get real fast. Matthew and Nancy get into the conversations couples avoid: aging parents who don't want help, financial independence, and the difference between people who push to keep growing and people who quietly decide "this is it." It's honest, a little uncomfortable, occasionally funny, and completely unedited — which is exactly the point.

Also: Matthew needs to get his eyes checked. Nancy said so. Publicly.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Four days is the limit — presence matters, but so does knowing when it's time to go
• Kids don't teach you to be present — grandkids do — you can finally appreciate the chaos without being in the middle of it
• Plan for the life you want, or someone else will plan it for you — watching aging parents is a mirror for your own future
• Push to keep growing — "this is it" is a choice, not a requirement
• Have the hard conversations — dancing around the elephant in the room doesn't make it smaller
• Know yourself at the doctor — your history, your questions, your standards of care

Episode 37 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't starts with a fall — Nancy goes down hard on pavement leaving church, knees and wrist taking the hit — and somehow gets more chaotic from there. While Matthew joins a Zoom call in the waiting room, Nancy wanders into the wrong exam room and single-handedly discombobulates an entire urgent care office. Classic Nancy and Matthew energy.

But underneath the laughs, this episode gets real. Matthew and Nancy talk about how couples communicate (and miscommunicate), why 75% of the time is actually pretty good, and what it means to handle unexpected setbacks without falling apart. They also get into something a lot of people avoid: taking ownership of your own health. Knowing your body, asking the right questions, advocating for yourself, and — Matthew, this means you — actually making the appointment.

It's messy, it's funny, and it's very, very unedited.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Couples communication is never perfect — 75% is a win; it's the other 25% that keeps things interesting
• Find the humor — when life knocks you down (literally), laughing through it beats staying mad
• Handle it, then adjust — address the immediate crisis first, then figure out how it changes your plans
• Own your health — know your body, ask good questions, and don't use "I don't know the doctor" as an excuse not to go
• Your spouse is your best advocate — sometimes it takes someone who knows you to push you through the door