Episode 40 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't is a catch-up episode — and they have a lot to catch up on. Matthew and Nancy recap a summer that included flying to Florida to help Nancy's mom (and discovering a collapsed septic line on arrival), four days of retirement scouting in St. Augustine, and a gender reveal that means grandchild number five is a girl — and she'll be right there in the same town.

There's also the Ultra event in New York City, which got them thinking about how small they are in the grand scheme of things and how much more they want to do. Matthew tipped his bike in the driveway, lost a thumbnail on the Belgian block, and ended up at the ER at 7 AM. They went to a strawberry festival with one strawberry vendor. They did six miles on the Newport cliff walk with an injured hand and couldn't turn back.

Through all of it — health struggles, behavior change, bougie travel standards, and a son who can't decide what he wants for his 30th birthday — they're still figuring it out. Together. Loudly.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Four days max — with anyone, anywhere; it keeps everybody loving each other
• Changing a behavior takes time — years of habits don't shift overnight; give yourself grace
• Explore before you decide — retirement scouting is about narrowing down, not locking in
• Bring the joy even when it's hard — especially when you're in a crowd of people who aren't
• Slow and steady wins — two pounds a month beats crash dieting every time
• Sometimes you just have to commit — the cliff walk had no exit; you finish or you finish

Episode 39 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't opens with Matthew spending 40 minutes trying to get the setup right — which Nancy has exactly zero patience for. From there they get into the real stuff: where do they want to retire? They used an astrocartography tool to narrow it down and landed on Portugal, Spain, Italy, Charleston, and Sarasota as their top five destinations to explore. Portugal is first up in September.

They also get into the MOVES method — a flexibility and mobility routine that's revealing just how inflexible two people in their 60s can be. The wedges are on the floor. The neighbor who paddleboards in a wetsuit in January is the goal. And Matthew is eyeing rowing while Nancy wants to get back to dance class. Meanwhile, the body isn't cooperating the way it used to, and they're both trying to figure out what that means going forward.

Also: Nancy told Matthew to pick one project. He narrowed it down to three. Progress.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Pick one project and master it — doing too many things at once means nothing gets done well
• Plan your retirement before someone else plans it for you — explore while you still can choose
• Use tools to explore, not decide — astrocartography gave them destinations, not answers
• Your future self is trying to tell you something — the flexibility work now is about tying your shoes at 80
• Know your strengths — Matthew's a Learner/Achiever; Nancy doesn't want to learn the tech, she wants it to work
• Find exercise you'll actually do — gym failed, yoga failed, tennis and dance might stick

Episode 38 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't opens outside on Mother's Day — with background noise, a sick Nancy, and a brand new used convertible Matthew has barely figured out how to drive. They're fresh back from four days in Miami with the grandkids, and little Millie in her sparkly dress and cowboy boots at story time may be the highlight of the episode.

But things get real fast. Matthew and Nancy get into the conversations couples avoid: aging parents who don't want help, financial independence, and the difference between people who push to keep growing and people who quietly decide "this is it." It's honest, a little uncomfortable, occasionally funny, and completely unedited — which is exactly the point.

Also: Matthew needs to get his eyes checked. Nancy said so. Publicly.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Four days is the limit — presence matters, but so does knowing when it's time to go
• Kids don't teach you to be present — grandkids do — you can finally appreciate the chaos without being in the middle of it
• Plan for the life you want, or someone else will plan it for you — watching aging parents is a mirror for your own future
• Push to keep growing — "this is it" is a choice, not a requirement
• Have the hard conversations — dancing around the elephant in the room doesn't make it smaller
• Know yourself at the doctor — your history, your questions, your standards of care