It’s pretty easy for us to recognize when someone else is behaving in a defensive manner. Seeing defensiveness in ourselves can be as difficult as figuring out where in the world Waldo is at any given time. Defensiveness helps protect us from uncomfortable truths about ourselves, but it also causes rifts in relationships. Defensive behavior most often sounds like the title of this episode: Why is everybody always picking on me? Listen in as we explore this behavior that does not serve us well as adults.

The Weight Loss Winformation Podcast gives you essential psychological information to help you lose weight and more importantly, to help keep you at a healthy weight for your body! No matter how you are working to lose weight and no matter how much weight you want to lose, Weight Loss Winformation will keep you moving in a positive direction. Let’s get started because well… Why Weight? (get it? Pun intended… )?

Resources:

· BariAfterare: www.bariaftercare.com

· Connie Stapleton PhD website: www.conniestapletonphd.com

· BariAftercare website: https://www.conniestapletonphd.com/bariaftercare

· BariAftercare Facebook page (for members only): https://www.facebook.com/groups/BariAftercare

· Kevin Stephens: Your Bariatric Buddy https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourbariatricbuddy/people

· Instagram: @ (Caleshia Haynes)

· Instagram: @therealbariboss (Tabitha Johnson)

· Instagram @drsusanmitchell (Dr. Susan Mitchell)

· Instagram: @lauraleepreston (Laura Preston)

· ProCare Vitamins (10% off with code ConnieStapleton)

· Rob DiMedio: https://www.busybariatrics.com/

· Dr. Joan Brugman: drjbrugman@outlook.com

· Dr. Susan Mitchell https://www.facebook.com/DrSusanMitchell

https://www.facebook.com/bariatricsurgerystrategies

· Garber, Leon. Addressing Chronic Defensiveness.

· Levoy, Gregg. The Surprising—and Transformative—Truth About Defensiveness.

· Miller, Rachel. Defeating Defensiveness.

· Grant Halvorson, Heidi. Stop Being So Defensive!

· Kim, John. How to Stop Getting Defensive About Everything.

In episode 251 of the Weight Loss Winformation Podcast I introduced the topic of Big T and Little T trauma to you and shared how the effects of trauma are long-lasting and can interfere with people’s ability to follow through with goals for weight loss (and many other things). I was asked to do a follow-up episode giving suggestions for how to deal with trauma responses when they occur in daily life… in part so that you don’t resort to the familiar but unhealthy coping skill of using food to feel better! This episode is the follow-up in which I share tools for using when your trauma responses like anxiety, anger, and defensiveness threaten to get the best of you!

The Weight Loss Winformation Podcast gives you essential psychological information to help you lose weight and more importantly, to help keep you at a healthy weight for your body! No matter how you are working to lose weight and no matter how much weight you want to lose, Weight Loss Winformation will keep you moving in a positive direction. Let’s get started because well… Why Weight? (get it? Pun intended… )?

Resources:

· BariAfterare: www.bariaftercare.com

· Connie Stapleton PhD website: www.conniestapletonphd.com

· BariAftercare website: https://www.conniestapletonphd.com/bariaftercare

· BariAftercare Facebook page (for members only): https://www.facebook.com/groups/BariAftercare

· Kevin Stephens: Your Bariatric Buddy https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourbariatricbuddy/people

· Instagram: @ (Caleshia Haynes)

· Instagram: @therealbariboss (Tabitha Johnson)

· Instagram @drsusanmitchell (Dr. Susan Mitchell)

· Instagram: @lauraleepreston (Laura Preston)

· ProCare Vitamins (10% off with code ConnieStapleton)

· Rob DiMedio: https://www.busybariatrics.com/

· Dr. Joan Brugman: drjbrugman@outlook.com

· Dr. Susan Mitchell https://www.facebook.com/DrSusanMitchell

https://www.facebook.com/bariatricsurgerystrategies

· The Secret to Healing Trauma by Michelle P. Maidenberg Ph.D.,

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/being-your-best-self/202408/the-secret-to-healing-trauma

I had the most pleasant conversation with Dr. Andrea Grayson for this podcast episode. Dr. Grayson is the author of the book The Sweet Tooth Dilemma, which I wholeheartedly recommend that you read! In the book and in our interview, Dr. Grayson talks about why sugar is so bad for us and the reasons it is so difficult for us to quit consuming it! Dr. Grayson, like so many people, learned from personal experience about being addicted to sugar. She very awesomely chose to use her experience to educate and help treat other people who struggle with the dilemma of loving sugar, knowing how bad it is for you, and wanting to stop consuming it but having a heck of a difficult time doing so! Get ready to learn from Dr. Grayson! Learn even more from her by reading The Sweet Tooth Dilemma!

The Weight Loss Winformation Podcast gives you essential psychological information to help you lose weight and more importantly, to help keep you at a healthy weight for your body! No matter how you are working to lose weight and no matter how much weight you want to lose, Weight Loss Winformation will keep you moving in a positive direction. Let’s get started because well… Why Weight? (get it? Pun intended… )?

Resources:

· BariAfterare: www.bariaftercare.com

· Connie Stapleton PhD website: www.conniestapletonphd.com

· BariAftercare website: https://www.conniestapletonphd.com/bariaftercare

· BariAftercare Facebook page (for members only): https://www.facebook.com/groups/BariAftercare

· Kevin Stephens: Your Bariatric Buddy https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourbariatricbuddy/people

· Instagram: @ (Caleshia Haynes)

· Instagram: @therealbariboss (Tabitha Johnson)

· Instagram @drsusanmitchell (Dr. Susan Mitchell)

· Instagram: @lauraleepreston (Laura Preston)

· ProCare Vitamins (10% off with code ConnieStapleton)

· Rob DiMedio: https://www.busybariatrics.com/

· Dr. Joan Brugman: drjbrugman@outlook.com

· Dr. Susan Mitchell https://www.facebook.com/DrSusanMitchell

https://www.facebook.com/bariatricsurgerystrategies

· The Sweet Tooth Dilemma by Andrea Grayson

https://www.amazon.com/Sweet-Tooth-Dilemma-seductive-dangerous/dp/B0C63VZSBD