In today’s episode, we explore one of the most universal — and most destabilizing — moments in modern dating: the first dip in energy, effort, or communication.

Whether you’re a woman wondering why a man went quiet after weeks of consistency, or a man who spirals the moment a woman’s tone shifts, this episode unpacks what’s actually happening beneath the surface… and why it has less to do with rejection and more to do with the natural rhythm of early connection.

I break down:

• Why the 6–8 week mark often triggers the first wobble in pacing, communication, and nervous system activation
• How the “rubber band effect” works and why expansion and contraction are normal parts of developing connection
• How to hold emotional space without chasing, clinging, withdrawing, or performing ‘cool girl/guy’ energy
• Why going to your friends too quickly can fuel anxiety rather than clarity
• A somatic practice to move from panic to presence so you can respond instead of react
• How to ask for clarity from a grounded, secure place instead of anxiety or pressure

We’re going deep - using a universal experience as a doorway into a much larger conversation on nervous system regulation, the psychology of pacing, and the early stages of compatibility.

If you’ve ever felt thrown off by a quiet week, a shift in tone, or a change in rhythm… this episode will give you the tools to stay steady, self-led, and connected to your worthiness.

Reflect: When you feel the pull to panic or cling, what would it look like to stay rooted in your own life instead?

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