Why Children Need Us Calm Before They Can Calm Themselves
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Why Children Need Us Calm Before They Can Calm Themselves
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Many parents are told that children need to learn how to calm themselves — but for young children, regulation isn’t something they can do on demand.
In this episode, we explore why children need adults to stay calm with them before they can learn to regulate their own emotions. We talk about what’s happening in the nervous system during moments of distress, why “calm down” often doesn’t work the way we hope, and how adult regulation supports long-term emotional development.
This conversation introduces the concept of co-regulation and explains how repeated experiences of calm, supportive presence help children gradually build their own capacity for regulation.
This episode is for parents who want to understand big emotions through a developmental lens and support their children with steadiness rather than pressure.