Whether you've been married for one year or twenty, chances are you've wondered: Why does intimacy change after kids? And more importantly—can you get it back?

This week on The Village Podcast, I'm joined by physician-turned sex and relationship therapist Dr. Rikki Mullen for one of the most honest conversations we've had so far.

Before becoming a sought-after relationship expert, Dr. Mullen built a successful career as an internal medicine physician—until a breast cancer scare forced her to reevaluate everything. She shares the deeply personal story that led her to leave medicine, rebuild her life from the ground up, and dedicate her work to helping couples create healthier, happier, and more connected relationships.

Together, we dive into the realities of marriage after children: why so many couples lose their spark, why women often feel "touched out," how stress quietly sabotages desire, and the simple shifts that can help partners reconnect emotionally and physically.

As a married mom of two myself, I found this conversation incredibly validating—and I have a feeling many of you will, too.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why intimacy often changes after marriage and children

• The surprising science behind feeling "touched out" as a parent

• How stress affects sexual desire (especially for women)

• The biggest mistake couples make when trying to improve their sex life

• Whether scheduling sex actually works—and why it might

• How to identify your "accelerators" and "brakes" when it comes to desire

• Practical ways to reconnect with your partner without waiting for the "perfect moment"

• Why novelty and shared experiences strengthen long-term relationships

• Dr. Mullen's journey from physician to sex and relationship therapist after a life-changing health scare

• Why prioritizing your relationship isn't selfish—it's essential

Whether you're newly married, deep in the parenting years, or simply curious about building a stronger relationship, this episode is filled with practical advice, compassion, and hope.

I can't wait to hear what resonates most with you.

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About Dr. Rikki Mullen

Dr. Rikki Mullen is a board-certified internal medicine physician, certified sex and relationship therapist, and relationship coach who helps individuals and couples build healthier, more connected relationships. Drawing on both her medical background and extensive training in intimacy and communication, she combines science and practical tools to help people strengthen their relationships and create lasting change.

Links referenced in this episode:

• Jaiya's Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough Quiz
• drikkimullen.com
• instagram.com/dr.rikkimullen