If you're stuck in the loop of constantly proving yourself, download The Evening Upgrade – a free 10 minute audio with Julie that helps you actually switch off at night and stop replaying the day: https://milliesidecoaching.com/evening-upgrade
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In this episode, you'll discover why feeling stuck in your career isn't about confidence or capability – it's about an identity gap that was built long before you started this job. You'll learn the hidden reason high performers stay stuck despite decades of success, and walk away with one powerful question that exposes where you've been putting your needs second without realising it.
➡️ Why overpreparing, saying yes when you mean no, and replaying conversations at 2am aren't confidence issues – they're identity issues
➡️ How beliefs formed in childhood about your worth show up now as imposter feelings, even with 20 years of evidence you're qualified
➡️ The specific question to ask yourself this week that makes the invisible visible and stops you negotiating with yourself about things that aren't up for negotiation
➡️ Why insight alone doesn't change behaviour, and what actually shifts your subconscious wiring so you stop acting as though your worth is up for debate
➡️ The difference between trimming branches and going to the root – and how identity work changes multiple areas of your life at once
⏱️ TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Introduction
00:42 The identity gap explained
01:58 Why this isn't a confidence problem
03:19 Where identity is formed
04:03 The lesson high performers carry
05:01 The responsible child example
07:56 The loop high performers are stuck in
10:31 The question that exposes your ceiling
12:14 Real life example: the meeting
13:51 Real life example: the 2am replay
16:04 How identity rewire works
18:05 Your action for this week
📺 ABOUT THE UPGRADE
The Upgrade is a weekly show hosted by Julie Smith for high-performing professionals who have ticked every box on the outside but still feel like something is not clicking on the inside. If you've done everything right but something still feels off, this show is for you.
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