Why “You’re Not Listening” Shuts People Down
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Why “You’re Not Listening” Shuts People Down
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About this listen
Have you ever been told “you’re not listening”—or said it yourself—and felt everything shut down instantly?
In this episode of The Spaghetti Wall Podcast, Jason Wilcox, LCSW, and Dr. Tanay Lee, clinical psychologist, unpack why this phrase is so damaging in relationships—and what’s actually happening beneath it.
We explore:
- Why “you’re not listening” feels like an accusation
- How reactivity and brain chemistry block real hearing
- The difference between not listening and not feeling heard
- Why curiosity works better than criticism
- Practical language shifts that reduce defensiveness and repair connection
Whether you’re navigating conflict with a partner, parenting a child, or struggling to feel understood, this episode offers simple, actionable tools to help conversations move forward instead of breaking down.
Because most of the time, the problem isn’t listening—it’s how we talk about it.
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