You didn't hire them and you didn't choose them. In some cases, you wouldn't have them over for dinner if your life depended on it. And yet here you are, expected to collaborate, coordinate, and produce results together five days a week.

Working with people you genuinely don't like is one of the most universal and least discussed workplace experiences. Today, I'm going to tell you what's actually happening neurologically when certain personalities set off your threat response, why the "just be professional" advice falls so flat, and what actually works when you're stuck with a team you'd never have assembled yourself.

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You care deeply about doing good work. You have high standards. You notice details other people miss and you hold yourself to a level of quality that, honestly, has served you well. And somewhere along the way, that same quality that made you good at your job started making your job miserable.

Today I want to talk about perfectionism at work, not as a character flaw or a humblebrag, but as a specific nervous system pattern that has a real cost and a real solution. Because the version of perfectionism that's quietly sabotaging you isn't about standards, it's about fear. And those are two very different things.

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Feedback is supposed to be one of the most useful tools at work. It's how we grow, how teams improve, how managers develop their people, how problems get surfaced before they become disasters. And yet most people either dread receiving it, avoid giving it, or deliver it so carefully that nothing useful gets communicated.

Today, I’ll tell you the reason feedback is so hard (spoiler alert: it’s not a communication skills problem, it’s a nervous system problem), and how to give and receive feedback with ease.

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👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book

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