⚡️ 5-second gist

* 🧠 You’re often running V1 Safety or V2 Approval on adult problems.

* ⚠️ Under stress, the most-practiced code hijacks you.

* 🎯 The upgrade is V3 Values—calmer, clearer choices.👉 Listen to the episode for the quick “upgrade drill.”

😬 The quiet pain

* Rejection of your work feels like rejection of you.

* You people-please, overexplain, then regret it.

* Logic vows collapse the moment emotions spike.

🎛 The black-box truth

We don’t control the mechanism—only inputs and outputs. Keep feeding fear/validation and you’ll keep getting reactivity and rumination. Change the inputs, change the day.

🧩 The Human OS (the 3 versions)

* V1: Safety (0–10) → hide/appease.

* V2: Approval (10–25) → perform/belong.

* V3: Values (optional) → chosen principles > mood or optics.

Under pressure you won’t rise to goals—you’ll sink to defaults.

👀 Spot it (don’t solve it yet)

* Am I chasing safety or approval? (V1/V2)

* Would I do this if nobody saw it? (V3)That’s enough to start catching the hijack.

🧭 Why V3 feels better

When actions match values, stress drops and decisions simplify. Identity stops riding the rollercoaster of other people’s reactions.

🎧 What’s in the episode (teaser)

* A 3-second pattern breaker you can use mid-conversation.

* A pocket test to separate Participant vs Observer.

* Real examples of shifting from V2 to V3 in work and relationships.

Reply: Where does V2 hijack you most—work, relationships, or health?

🔊 Listen to the episode on Spotify or Itunes