If holiday plans feel like a pressure cooker of expectations, you’re not alone. We unpack how each of the nine Enneagram types walks into the season with very human hopes and fears, and how those hidden expectations can quietly sabotage connection when stress rises, plans shift, or emotions run high.

For every type, we share clear triggers to watch for, a simple grounding practice you can use in the moment, and a short mantra that helps your nervous system settle so you can stay present.

If this conversation helps, follow the show, share it with your people, and leave a quick review—what mantra are you taking into the holidays?

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Ever wondered what it’s like to discover your Enneagram type in real time? Wendy sits down with Briana, a first-time test taker who lands as a Type Seven, and trace the exact moment optimism meets self-awareness. If you’ve ever kept your options open, reframed pain into a silver lining, or said yes to something exciting before thinking it through, Briana's story will feel familiar.

Brianna brings the classic Seven spark—ideas for days, community energy, and a calendar that rarely sits still. We dig into why Sevens move fast, why boredom bites, and how “positivity as control” can show up without notice. Along the way, we uncover the head triad’s shared thread of fear and how Sevens manage it by staying upbeat and future-focused. From innovation at work to the frustration of stalled follow-through, we explore practical ways to slow the pace, simplify choices, and translate creativity into action that sticks.

What makes this conversation different is the honest tension: the pull to keep things light and the growth that only comes from staying with discomfort a little longer. Briana shares a vulnerable story about overcommitting during new motherhood, the surprise power of talking about hard moments, and the relief of naming what’s actually going on beneath the surface. We close with one simple, doable practice for the week—awareness before action—so change lands gently and lasts longer.

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Fatima, a clinical psychologist from Kuwait, shares her journey from people-pleasing to authentic living and how she helps women reconnect with themselves after trauma and disconnection.

• Discovered her calling to psychology at age 11 without understanding what it meant
• Studied anthropology before completing a master's in clinical psychology at the University of Edinburgh
• Specializes in helping women who feel disempowered or unable to express their authentic selves
• Explains how collectivist cultures prioritize group harmony over individual needs
• Describes overcoming people-pleasing by "sitting in the discomfort" of others' displeasure
• Discusses how to identify and rewrite limiting inner narratives
• Shares the transformation process from surviving to thriving through authentic living
• Offers a powerful question for self-reflection: "Would you want this life for your son or daughter?"

You can find Fatima on Instagram @soulfulpsychfatima where she shares authentic content about healing and self-discovery.

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Beneath the surface behaviors of each Enneagram type lies a profound emotional pattern the passion that influences how we see the world and react to life's challenges. These patterns operate largely unconsciously, steering our reactions and perceptions in ways we rarely notice. But within each of us also exists a virtue which is our authentic essence that emerges when we're grounded, present, and aligned.

This conversation offers profound insights for anyone who's ever wondered: "Why do I keep reacting this way?" or "What does growth actually look like for my type?" The journey from passion to virtue isn't about becoming someone else it's about remembering who you've been all along, beneath the layers of adaptation and protection.

Your virtue is already there intact, it's whole and waiting to be remembered. The work isn't about developing new skills but peeling back what obscures your authentic self. This dance between passion and virtue isn't linear it's a constant flow of awareness, growth, and sometimes returning to old patterns. But with each cycle, we gain more freedom to choose our response rather than being driven by unconscious emotional patterns.

Ready to discover what might be driving your reactions and how to access your innate virtue? Listen now and take the first step toward becoming more truly yourself.

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Have you ever felt completely stuck in life, like you're trapped in a cycle with no way out? That overwhelming sense of stagnation where nothing seems to move forward despite your best efforts? You're not alone—and there's profound wisdom waiting in that uncomfortable space.

Feeling stuck is universally human, yet we rarely talk about it honestly. We live in a culture that celebrates constant motion, achievement, and productivity, making the experience of stagnation feel like personal failure. But what if being stuck isn't a problem to solve but a signal to heed? What if it's life's way of inviting you into necessary change?

This episode unpacks what being stuck really feels like—the confusion, frustration, fear, and self-doubt that often accompany it—while offering a compassionate framework for moving through it with intention. We explore why clarity doesn't come from doing more but from stepping back to reflect and recalibrate. You'll discover the essential ingredients for navigating stuck seasons: self-compassion, trusted support from others, small but meaningful actions, and perhaps most challenging of all, patience.

Whether you're experiencing professional stagnation, emotional blockage, or spiritual drought, this conversation offers practical tools like journaling, changing your environment, and taking tiny steps forward. Remember, being stuck is temporary—just one season in your journey. You are uniquely you and worthy of all the growth, progress, and possibilities that lie ahead, however slowly they might reveal themselves.

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What if the thing you thought was wrong with you was actually a pattern shared by millions? For Kristi Rider, discovering the Enneagram was like finally finding a mirror that reflected back not just her perfectionism, but the hidden anger underneath it all.

From the moment she identified as a Type One, Kristi recognized the internal pressure cooker she'd been living in. As a mother of four children, she had mastered the art of keeping everything together - coordinating sports schedules, preparing perfect meals, and maintaining impossibly high standards. But beneath that competence churned a reservoir of anger and disappointment that eventually threatened her marriage and peace of mind.

In this vulnerable conversation, Kristi shares the physical sensation of what she calls "the squeeze" - that moment when her inner critic constricts her body and mind into rigid patterns of control. She describes going to bed angry almost every night, mentally cataloging everyone's failures before sleep. The perfectionism that once seemed like her greatest strength had become her prison.

Whether you identify as a One or simply recognize the exhausting drive for perfection in your own life, this conversation offers a roadmap toward greater freedom. As Kristi now experiences what she calls "yumminess" - moments of pure presence without judgment - we glimpse the possibility of transformation that begins, as our closing quote reminds us, not with perfection but with truth.

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Chuck and Linda Lesem share their 37-year marriage journey and how discovering the Enneagram transformed their relationship by giving them a language to understand each other's patterns. Their story reveals how complementary personality types can create both challenges and beautiful balance when partners learn to appreciate their fundamental differences.

• Chuck (Type One) and Linda (Type Two) met at a pizza parlor after a missed introduction
• They navigated early relationship differences without personality frameworks for their first 20 years together
• The Enneagram provided language to make conflicts "less personal" by understanding type patterns
• Their different instinctual subtypes (social One and self-preservation Two) explain many relationship dynamics
• Chuck brings structure, organization and stability while Linda brings relationship focus and "magic"
• Their contrasting parenting styles created beneficial balance for their daughters
• Doing Enneagram work together revealed new layers of vulnerability even after decades of marriage
• Understanding personality patterns helps couples realize people aren't "trying to annoy you" but genuinely see the world differently
• Both recommend couples learn the Enneagram early in relationships to navigate differences compassionately
• Finding growth together while honoring differences strengthens long-term relationships

Love is not about sameness, it's about understanding the beautiful and challenging ways we're different and choosing to grow together anyways.

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The Enneagram 9 pattern is often misunderstood as merely "easygoing" when in reality Nines have a complex inner world filled with untapped wisdom and power they struggle to access.

• 9s often have difficulty defining their own characteristics and may assume others think and feel the same way they do
• Self-preservation Nines can appear similar to 6s due to shared behavioral patterns
• Nines give others grace easily but struggle to extend the same compassion to themselves
• Being "easygoing" is both a strength and challenge – it can lead to being overlooked or taken advantage of
• Nines need extra time and space to form opinions, and can sense when others genuinely want to hear their thoughts
• A helpful practice for Nines is deliberately forming opinions in low-pressure situations (like shopping) to strengthen decision-making muscles
• The "nice person" stereotype prevents Nines from acknowledging their full humanity, including their capacity for causing hurt
• Nines often appear blank during conflict because they've disconnected from themselves, making it difficult to pinpoint issues
• Anger manifests differently in Nines – often as irritation or frustration rather than rage
• Right action happens when Nines feel clear internal knowing, as opposed to the foggy indecision of sloth
• Growth requires stepping into uncomfortable spaces and accepting that transformation isn't linear

Remember, there is no growth without some discomfort. The journey from awareness to acceptance to expansion takes courage, but leads to authentic connection with yourself and others.

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